My mum likes to tell me what I should be doing with DS to get him to sleep/talk/eat not in a bitchy judgy way she is honestly trying to help but the advice is no good for DS.
The main thing is his sleeping he has never been a sleeper no matter what I have tried and will not sleep with any stimulation/distractions but she insist that if I leave him he will fall asleep on his own, the favorite is sitting him down infront of the TV with a bottle so he sleeps it has NEVER worked for her but still she goes on and on about it.
Talking - I need to push him to say more of his words he had about 40 but only says about 15 regularly I just leave him to it, DP isn't much of a talker and never was so I think he just takes after him plus he's 20 months so it's not like he's terribly behind
Eating - he doesn't eat well but is putting on weight and rarely ill so both GP and HV have told me not to worry to much so I don't, she swings between telling me to let him graze and feed him 3 big meals depending on what he's doing that day (some days he eats for the week) she also tell me to give him more milk and when I cave and give him it (he loves milk) she say he's not eating because of the milk.
She is also pushing for him to be potty trained fully as he uses his potty or the big toilet at home but is in pull ups outside due to not being able to hold it for more that 3 or 4 mins and getting very upset when he's wet, I've explained after discussing with GP we think he's mentally ready but not physically developed enough for full blown training again he's 20 months so ahead of the game anyway I don't see any reason to push him I think it will be to stressful for him until he has better control.
Sorry that turned into a full blown rant but how do you all deal with well meaning advice? I find it easy to shrug it off from strangers or friends but am very close to my mum and see her almost daily I don't know how to tell her to butt out without offending her and the constant 'advice' is making me feel like i'm failing