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I'm so fed up with DD 6 year old lying sneaking behaviour.

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classyinpink · 08/10/2013 18:55

Any advice would be appreciated. My DD who started little lies at 5 year old and also taking stuff from other people's house (hiding in pockets). Everybody said it was a phase so I told her it's not good thing to do and didn't make a big fuss.

She is in year 2 now and she blatantly lies about many things and it's only after hours of threats that she fesses up (she makes these funny eyes when she lies as well).

for example: taking important pill (it's okay that she had no idea they were important) from countertop and saying she has never seen it and everyone wondering for hours what has happened and hoping no little child ingested it. Or saying 'this is only for grown ups isn't it' and then when you are not looking, trying it out even though it would be dangerous for her.
or saying 'I finished that chapter in the book' when she hasn't.

We told her about boy who cried wolf story, taking away things, shouting, ignoring yet it continues at least three times a week.

Is this normal phase and what can I do to help her be honest?

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ChoudeBruxelles · 08/10/2013 18:57

Does she have a hobby/something she enjoys doing? Stop her doing that if she lies?

classyinpink · 08/10/2013 19:00

she is not to go to the park tomorrow after school.

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ASmidgeofMidge · 08/10/2013 19:04

I used to do this as a child. I still don't 100% know why, but I was subject to a lot of sanctions/'rules': my parents were really over protective. Am not by any means saying this applies to you, but am wondering if, alongside the need to talk to your dd re lying, whether there is some room to not sweat the small stuff, iykwim? Clearly your example re the pill is a time when it's important not to lie, but maybe the chapter in the book is less of a biggie?

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classyinpink · 08/10/2013 19:17

Well it does make me think that I might be overprotective. I suppose I can let go of few things but I don't want her to grow up and be sneaky person. She likes being secretive (it's her personality) and has lots of inner secretive thinking inside her that she doesn't share. She is lovely but I would just like her to be more open and honest for her sake. (well and for my sanity as well!)

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ASmidgeofMidge · 08/10/2013 19:57

I see what you're saying, and agree she needs to learn about the need to be honest. But I think alongside that she'll probably want to keep some secrets / some things private, even more so as she gets older? Maybe it's a case of distinguishing the two? There's nothing in your OP which made me think you were overprotective, btw, that was more about me sharing my experience) Flowers

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