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Apparently I'm an Earth-Mother!

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Posey · 18/02/2004 22:26

Well according to my mum at the weekend!
I was amazed. I've been a mum almost 7 years, my sister just 1. While visiting my parents at the weekend we were discussing how easily or not we have adapted to having kids. My mum amazed me by calling me an earth mother. Not entirely sure what she meant as we were interrupted by the kids (don't all interesting conversations end like that?)
Anyway what does she mean? That I've taken to motherhood like a duck to water and take it all in my stride relishing each wonderful moment? Or does she mean I've let myself go in favour of my kids? My hair's a curly mop most of the time, I rarely bother with makeup and wear the same pair of snot-stained trousers for days on end?

What do you think? Are you an earth mother and what do you think it means?

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Posey · 19/02/2004 20:25

Thanks so much for all your responses.
I wasn't fishing for compliments. My mum has never been big on the praise thing, I think she thought we'd grow up big headed if she told us we were great (she thinks we compliment dd too much, despite the fact dd is not conceited at all, just has self esteem, something I'm gradually learning to have) I guess the whole thing took me so by surprise, my mum giving me such a huge compliment and not in a roundabout fashion. Does that make sense?

Anyway, as for all the descriptions you gave, some are me, some aren't.
I am an earth mother because:
-I b/f both children for over a year

  • I allow them in bed with me if they so wish (its not actively encouraged though!)
  • I love being a SAHM, and have NO regrets about giving up my career
  • I love all the arty/crafty stuff I can do with dd
  • I like baking
  • I stay calm when stressed
  • I like a house full of dd's friends

I'm not an earth mother because:

  • I can't knit and don't sew
  • I shave my legs
  • I had fully interventionist hospital births both times (induction, epidural, ventouse)
  • I'm a meat eater
  • I don't particularly go in for complementary therapies
  • I like alcohol I've bought, not made myself.

Between you lot and my mum I'm feeling rather boosted. Will just go and polish my halo now
Seriously though I find it hard to accept compliments, and get quite emotional if someone tells me I'm doing a good job, even if deep down I know it myself

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emmatmg · 20/02/2004 12:01

Alot of people have said similar to me because we have 3 children and all our family live miles away(BIL & SIL live close but have young children too) and we've/I brought them up with no outside help and DH doing really annoying odd shifts......but I always wonder why they say it as we obviously have no choice but to do it that way.
We have been places without the children since DS1 was born nearly 5 years ago but only a few times, probably less than 5 times socially in that time. Lots of people offer to have the children so that we can go to the pub or where ever but I just don't want to so I'm puzzled when people say " You do a fantasic job" "You're always so calm" "Ohhh I don't know how you manage with so many young children" and recently my sister said that she was jealous of what I've got/done because she went back to work when her DD was a young baby and after a few weeks off work realised what she's missed.
We wouldn't and couldn't have done it any other way so there was no choice. But it is nice to hear all the same

lavender1 · 20/02/2004 12:36

Ha, just asked dh if he thought I was an earth mother he said no and then when asked him what one was he wasn't sure but said "Oh, someone who grubs about in the garden, never dresses up, never wears makeup" Like other definitions

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