Point out his mistakes or leave him to it, WWYD?

[WestieMamma]

My husband is totally devoted to our little one and desperately wants to be hands on and as involved as I am. He is however a bit ... peculiar in his choices. I'm torn between saving DS from humiliation and undermining DH's very fragile confidence in his new found skills.

For example, he is first to jump up when DS needs a nappy change but poor little DS looks like he's about to swim the Channel with the amount of sudocrem his slathered in. DH has got it into his head sudocrem=good, more sudocrem=more good.

Or he gets up early to take care of DS at weekends so I can catch up on some sleep. But today has dressed him in a pyjamas babygro (he thought it was a t-shirt), with dungarees over the top and a pair of gloves on his feet over the babygro (he thought they were socks).

Poor little mite has gone out with clothes on inside out, back to front, upside down. He needs saving.

This thread is making me so happy!
Loved, fed, warm and happy. You have your priorities right, and I wish all mothers were as happy to let the sartorial bits pass you by as it really counts as small stuff.
I found it easier with OH to suggest plain top, patterned bottom or vice versa for our pfb. For the rest, he was a very good SAHP. Just the clothing that he couldn't 'see'

I love this! My DP is just the same, I've learned not to comment on anything - what's harder is he'll comment on what I do! If he gets DD dressed, her outfit will be nuts and her hair will be wild. If I'm getting her dressed, I'll get a running commentary from him on the weather-appropriateness of her clothes and he'll hover, pointing out bits I've "missed" as I'm in the middle if doing her hair. That is much harder to bite my tongue on!

Just leave him to it, you are equal parents, and became so at the same time.

BTW, the people that post on here saying their OHs never do anything are in the minority but appear not to be because they are the ones starting threads e.g. I would never start a thread saying 'My DH and I made a baby, and he's normal, so we consider ourselves to be equal parents, we each look after the baby etc' because it's a non issue. Fathers should change their nappies, pick them up when they cry, be as good as mum at soothing them when they cry. Women who's partners can do this are not 'lucky', the Dads aren't 'amazing, special, unusual'...just, you know, normal.

Although...gloves on toes

Ah this is a good thread,i remember having my mc and dp brought the kids to the hospital to pick me up.He came in and collected me and as we were walking down the road i realised my youngest ds had one of his own socks and one of mine.Dp just seen to blue socks and just put it on him.It did make me smile that day and still does today

Leave him to it! It sounds quite sweet really. I piss myself when I have a lie in and dh dresses 11 month old dd. He's done exactly the same dungarees-over-sleepsuit thing.
On a more serious note, I used to have the same quackery but the more I left my dh to it, the more his confidence grew and therefore the mite my confidence in him grew. Unless you think he might make dangerous choices, don't undermine him by criticising.

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Awwww... OP's DH sounds so lovely.

Don't think of them as mistakes.
Okay to make suggestions like "I don't think he needs that much cream..."
"You do realise you've put gloves on his feet." (make a joke of it).

Honestly, count your blessings that your dh wants to help so much and make sure he knows how much you appreciate him! Am very jealous. I can remember being precious about clothes too but dd now dresses herself and shuns anything subtle or matching and I'm now happy if she's warm and decent!
With the sudocrem you could try a subtle hint like 'oh no this nappy leaked, I wonder if I put too much cream on?'