Does anyone else think this is nonscence?

[mrsmartin1984]

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1. How can you introduce a bedtime routine with a newborn. I can't blooming do it with an 8 month old

1. Don't feed them to sleep? Have they tried to give a baby a large feed before? Babies get milk drunk, every child does it

1. the whole don't put them to bed asleep is BOLLOCKS in my opinion. I give my child a large feed to get them to sleep (tut tut) then stick them her in her cot.

1. Avoid late daytime naps? She sleeps when she is tried

1. don't bring your child into your bed. When my child wakes up several times in the night (teething) I bring her in to make the night so much easier for the both of us. And seriously what is wrong with co sleeping if it is best for you both

1. OK I agree with that one. Giving a child a cuddle before bed it fair enough. although I want to cry when she gets all playful

Don't things like this make you sick. You should do what you feel is best for your child. These people just try and make you feel like a shit parent

I have to say I agree with you. I don't think these articles take into account that babies are all basically similar but have different temperaments.

I've seen some seriously chilled out babies who are happy to entertain themselves looking at the celing as they drift off to sleep. Others seem to have a desperate need for constant human companionship.

I personally think a lot of this advice only fits a formula fed baby, I haven't really found any decent advice re breastfeeding from the experts.

I hate articles like this! It's a load of generalised idealistic rubbish.

The sooner people start telling parents that their baby is an individual and should be treated as such the better.

There are certain things that can assist with routines but if baby isn't ready your just making your life very difficult and stressful.

Far better to ditch any books or magazines, or if you do read them just take the odd bits that suit you.

I don't know, a lot of this is what we did. Not because we read it and thought this is what you must do, but because that's what we found worked for us. It was just something we stumbled upon when new parents finding our own way, along with asking our parents fir advice. I think it's like anything; follow it if you want, but it's not the law to do so and if you don't agree or if it doesn't work with your child/family, do something else.

Erm, no I don't really. Same as mumofboyo really, we do them because they generally work for us. We were having massive issues with daytime naps/evening meltdowns, mainly because our son was being fed to sleep at night so never had the experience of being put down awake during the day and was therefore unable to settle himself even after being comforted. Since we started putting a lot of these things in place (coincidentally, not because of any articles) there has been a huge improvement in the amount he sleeps and more importantly in his overall happiness and ability to self settle during the day and night.

I think an article like this is always going to generalise and to be honest 2 months ago I would have looked at it and said "yeah right, if only" but if they put loads of "but what if's" in there it would go on for a million pages.

I don't think this article is nonsense at all. It sounds like common sense good advice to me. Obviously not all babies will respond the same to these approaches, but surely it provides good aims. I've always done many of the things the article suggests, it works amazingly with some babies and not so much with others. It is rather idealistic, but there's no harm in trying to achieve the ideal surely. Following this advice from a very early age definately gives you the best chance of success, if that's what you want.

I did a lot of this too. Not all of it, but we found that in particular a bedtime routine works wonders, probably more so as we've been doing it since day 1. I'd never bring DD into our bed either - it's just not something I'm comfortable with.

Different strokes for different folks.

I think that baby's deserve to sleep with their mum and nurse on demand. It's what they biologically expect and I think that it is unhelpful, at the very least, for modern parents and articles like the one above to perpetuate the message that anything else should be expected of them.

You might like this resource op www.drmomma.org/2009/10/cosleeping-and-biological-imperatives.html

If it works for you brilliant. But it doesn't work for me and I haven't broken my baby yet. All babies are different and have difference temperaments. Articles like this never take that into account. And try and make women feel guilty about conforming to a specific routine.

The stupid advice at the moment seems to be don't let them feed to sleep and don't put them in a cot asleep. Really? Do these people have babies? After I give my DD a big feed she conks out. Which is normal from speaking to other parents no matter how they are feed. I put my daughter in her cot last night after a getting her off with a big feed (tut tut) and she woke up at 7 this morning. That sounds good to me.

I agree with random about sleeping with their mums and nursing on demand. She has only just gone in her cot. But that is what works for us. The best advice these so called experts give should be to trust your instincts

This all worked for me.
Best advice I was ever given we to feed my DC when they had just woken up rather than when they were tired.

If you don't like this way of doing things then just ignore it. Don't insult it as poor advice.

No one in their right mind would try to write a manual for all cars, or for all washing machines or even for all toasters.

So why does anyone think they can do it for a baby?