Dummy - have I discovered a miracle or am I "creating a rod for my own back"?

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Ds is 6 weeks old in 2 days, bfing is going well gaining weight etc.

His nighttime sleeping is very good but will go hrs and hrs of screaming from overtiredness as he will only sleep of held - not sleeping in pram unless walked t a certain speed amd outside and will on,y nap for 20 mins intbe carrier.

Toddler is 2 and from 4pm ds will scream hysterically until 9pm when he finally settles for end. Toddler usually screams from 6-7pm because she's ready for bed and has been hearing screams all day.

I am on the brink of pnd and fee.ungvery very low, constant screams after screams for hrs one nd...out of desperation I I gave ds a dummy and miraculously he settled while I did his sisters bedtime in calm quiet!

He was bf just before.

My sorry is ppl keep saying to me I am creating a rod for my own back S he will rely on the dummy and interfere with feeding.

Is it realistic to only use a dummy from 5pmwhen its the toddlers dinner and bedtime routine, thr when she's settled at 7pm,take the dummy away and change nappy, bf etc - ds's usual bedtime routine - no dummy.

I am desperate but do t want to mess up his nighttime sleep.

Another positive vote here - Ds had one for bedtimes only, gave it up at about 3. Dd was a more placid baby and wasn't interested in a dummy at all. If it is giving you peace and the baby is settled, go for it. You control the use so it will only be a rod if you make it so. Good luck!

Just make sure you have several to hand - we were up in the middle of the night last night because DD had managed to fling the dummy out of the cot and across the room. Took us a while to find it, even with the light on!

Ds massively rejected dummy yesterday, so we had hours and hours of screams and hysteria. Plus i'vebeen up since 3am and toddler has Ben up since 5am....feel exhausted and sad.

Go with the dummy, absolutely. Some babies just love to comfort suck and as long as DS is feeding well it won't interfere. My own DS was very colicky when tiny and his dummy seemed to help a lot. We found that propping him up with cushions in the corner of the sofa and giving him his dummy in the evenings when the colic was at its worst made him a lot more comfortable. At six months he gave it up of his own accord (which was a bit of a bummer cos he slept much better when he had it).

If it works for you and your DC, use the dummy! At 6 wo, imo, there are no rods to make, if you are making your baby happier or more comfortable. It might not work straight away but don't discount it. DS used to suck so hard on his it would pop out! Gave it up all by himself at about 7 months.
Congratulations on your baby, and remember, This Too Shall Pass

Totally use one! I didn't want to use them either, but both my girls really settled with them. Then at 4 months I took them away so they could learn to sleep without them. Both managed fine!