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Inferiority Complex

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Beccarollover · 18/02/2004 16:16

I took DD to Mcdonalds for a treat yesterday.

There were two women at a table near me with 5 children between them.

They both had just a bottle of evian each - they were immaculately dressed, lovely hair, nails and jewellry. Children were all co-ordinated and spotlessly clean - perfect hair etc

I felt very much like they were automatically better parents than I am.

Dont know why as I was dressed smartly, hair done etc - DS looking gorgeous and DD pretty in lovely dress and bunches clean face etc but still felt bit crap next to them.

I think it was the bottles of evian that did it as I had crumbled and had some fries and supposed to be on a diet!!!

Does anyone else feel like this sometimes when they see people and make huge assumptions about them?

Same happened at DDs new nursery, spotted a woman, very attractive, lovely clothes always looked polished - I assumed - popular, great parent, lovely husband, happy life - we later got talking and she has terrible trouble controlling her children and is thinking of leaving her husband, we talk alot now and she looks to me for advice and support - and I was secretly comforted by this that my inital impression was wrong.

Is this normal or do I have ishooooes!?
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Chinchilla · 08/03/2004 20:31

I'm always covered in various child stains by the end of the day, no matter how tidy I look at the start of it. When I worked, I would scrutinise how I looked before going out of the door. Now, I don't care if things don't go perfectly. I spend most of my day hidden behind ds's buggy anyway.

Galaxy · 08/03/2004 20:34

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Sunshine123 · 08/03/2004 21:14

I have to admit that i am one of 'those' women who does the facial thing, co-ordinates clothes, wears Mac makeup etc etc but i am far from dull and do not judge anyone else on the way that they dress. I have always been like this and was determined to 'keep it up' after having kids purely because i like to be/look this way. I don't think well presented mothers are any better than anyone else as it takes more than a bit of lipstick to be a good mum - by the end of the day i'm always covered in paint, playdough and baby food so my glamour isn't really that long lived.

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bossykate · 09/03/2004 08:21

how do women who work f/t find the time to be very well groomed? i know a couple of women like this from work and i always picture their children being dragged round clothes shopping and salons at weekends - or left with the nanny. i find i just don't have the time to go clothes shopping or to the salon as often as before kids - simple as that. bitter, moi?

stace · 09/03/2004 08:40

Bossykate i so agree with you, i find that the very little time i have left over after working is time that i long to spend with my DS and DH? Everything else is done in the quickest most time effective manner. I even have my hair roots done at the salon next door my office and sneak out the back door into my own office for the 40 minutes to do some work rather than sit there reading a magazine,how sad am i.

Come on Sunshine123 how do you do it, i just about have enough energy to get everyone ready for school and work and put away the breakfast stuff. Make up only goes on if i hit a traffic jam on the way to school

stace · 09/03/2004 08:43

Oh yes and i am a scruff bag too, i have never had leanings towards tidiness either personally or on the home front. Mentally i would love to be smart and tidy and my home too but i think i was raised by a neurotic, fastidious, clean and tidy obsessed mother!!! So maybe one day ill grow up and out of the rebellion !!!

Doubtful though as im 39 this year just gonna be the oldest slob on the circuit !

Twinkie · 09/03/2004 09:36

Oh god - ha ha - this is sooo funny - I have a friend who always looks perfect to the extent that I refuse to go anywhere with her and now only meet her for coffee at her house!! I have found out though that she was grossly ugly as a child and their family never had any money and she has been trying to live out her complex for the last 15 years!!

I will have an inferiority complex for at least the rest of the month due to the spot with Everest proportions on my chin at the mo - I want to scream - but I have it cause I am pregnant - but don't think anyone would believe me - sure all of the young pretty girls on their way to the London College of Fashion were starring at me on the bus this morning thinking what a hideous creature!!

And then dinosaur ignored me when I smiled at her so I must look a stegasaurus!!!

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