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New approach at bedtime needed

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Misty9 · 02/10/2013 20:50

So we're moving to our very own home tomorrow and I want to take the opportunity to try and address the bedtime issue.

We took the bars off ds's cotbed when he was 22mths (various reasons) and he is now nearly 2y1mo - he went from being able to self settle to sleep to needing us to either hold him to sleep, or sit by his bed (mainly to stop him getting out) until he falls asleep.

This can be quick (15-20mins) but more often than not it takes 1hr or more, especially if he's had a late nap (we think he's dropping it). We haven't been able to put a gate on his room and standing by the door was hopeless, he just kept getting up (and I mean 50+ times in 20mins).

So, new house new bedroom and gate on door :) it'll be bouncy I've no doubt, but what's the best way to approach this? Kiss goodnight and leave? He's likely to scream himself silly and throw the contents of his room over the gate... Ignore??

Or should we stick to holding him to sleep for a bit as he'll already likely be unsettled by the move? It's his 4th move but he's a bit older now I guess.

Any help gratefully received!

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CreatureRetorts · 03/10/2013 06:21

I doubt he's dropping the nap - he's very young. My dd is a similar age and we have similar issues. She's teething I think. I also remember similar trouble with her brother at the same age.
I find if I cuddle her until relaxed I can put her down and with a firm voice, tell her it's bedtime and I'm going to have my dinner, and she will be ok when I leave the room. If I put her to bed too late however, it takes ages!

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Misty9 · 05/10/2013 20:51

Thanks for replies - QT the room is pretty small, so not much room to play with in terms of backing away :)

We've been here two nights now and it's not going particularly well...he's been in our bed both nights although at least the super kingsize has been delivered now and I've realised that he is now completely reliant on us to get to sleep Confused which is so frustrating as he self settled from 5mo to 22mo and we just put him down and left the room!

He rolled out of bed last night and I stupidly lifted him back in, shortly after which he woke. Will leave him where he is next time!

I think we're going to have to go with it re sleeping in our bed part of the night, but bedtime isn't sustainable with another baby due in April. Will try the suggested withdrawal idea, though he just cries and says "chair" if we don't hold him... (Chair is feeding chair in his room). Suppose we could take it out?

Excuse slightly rambling post, I think it belies where we are with this issue..confused!

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Misty9 · 05/10/2013 20:53

Oh, and No stair gate after all - can't see how it would work as he'd open the door and hit the gate?!

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CreatureRetorts · 05/10/2013 21:50

If he says "chair" then tell him is time to sleep -
They really understand quite a lot. Worth a shot.

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