Thinking about 3, but DS2 such a pain

[meysey]

I've been thinking about having another baby. But DS2 is such a pain - charming but a terrible sleeper, really naughty etc - and is wearing me out. I feel resentful that his antics could stop me having another baby, but on the other hand am not sure if I could cope. It might just be the terrible twos, but he is much worse than DS1 ever was. What do you all think?

how old is he?
I have a four year gap btwn 1 and 2 - cos it took me that long to get over how difficult ds2 was ( was not is)
Ds1 was only a pain as a baby though - he had grown out of it before ds2 was born. I found going from 1 to 2 children really hard work - no 3 fitted right in and was a really easy baby.

If you know you want another one I think its just a question of timing

how difficult ds1 was - not ds2 - sorry that makes it very confusing

I dunno how old you are but chances are you will have your children for the next 40 or 50 years at least. That's a long time. So I wouldn't make a decision based on what is happening now, in the very short term. If you want 3, have 3. DS2 isn't going to be a pain for the next 50 years (hopefully).

pablopatito that did make me laugh!! and that's good encouragement apronstrings. DS1 is 5, DS2 is 2.

yes taking the longer term view sounds like the best thing to do...

My ds2 was an easy baby and an easy younger toddler...until halfway throuygh my 3rd pregnancy ! I panicked about how I'd cope, but actually dd's arrival when he was 3 seemed to help him and he became easy again.
As you know, they change very quickly; yours could become angelic any time now...
If you want another, have it. You'll cope. Better than not going for it and resenting it afterwards.

Having a nightmare baby/child does help prepare you for anything number 3 might throw at you though IMO.

Dd2 was awful, didn't sleep, miserable, naughty etc etc but it actually made me much more relaxed with Ds whom I had when Dd2 was 3. I think I expected he might be like her and so anything better was a bonus. Thankfully he was a fantastic baby most of the time but when he wasn't I was alot more laid back about it than with Dd2 as i'd been there and done that.