Just started school, dd exhausted. Is a day off okay?

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DD just started school aged 4, and there are two weeks til half term (Scotland, so started mid August). She is shattered, and it is affecting her behaviour and enjoyment of life! She is just very moany and needy and not her usual self, tears for no reason and mad hysterical hyper happiness, followed by collapsing into sobs. I feel so sorry for her, and this morning she cried going into school for the first time, wanting to stay home.

I am thinking of keeping her off tomorrow as I don't work Tuesdays, just to let her chill out- ie board games, tv and stories, and go to feed the ducks or something. This is my son is only 6 and will be jealous!!! So maybe I should just leave them both to it.

WWYD?!

Yes Sarah, she is a December birthday, and as you rightly say I didnt want her to start P1/year R next August, as I think she is as ready as her peers. She will be 5in December. My son is a Jan birthday and I have probably just forgotten how tired he was when he started school, and like I said before he had duvet days as he kept getting chest infections, she never gets ill, but god she gets tired. She was asleep for 7 tonight though, so fingers crossed!

I hadn't realised that about the defferal systems - I assumed England was the same. Interesting!

my DD is same she is 5 in december so will start school in scotland in august she will be one of youngest(4.8) if we ever moved to England she would be in same school year, ( though now as one of the older ones in her year group) however if I chose to defer and then moved to England she would have to skip a school year

legally you can defer in England but your child would miss reception year

I would speak to the school.

DS1's reception teacher was great at keeping an eye on them, and he fell asleep a couple of times during the first term and they called me to go and pick him up. I think that if I had really felt he couldn't handle it they would have been happy for him to do a couple of half days but we didn't get to that point even though he had only turned 4 a few weeks before he started school.

I have known of children with special needs or that were born prematurely to defer and still start in Reception in England.