5month separation anxiety

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Ds is 22wks, I've found recently that I can't leave him with dh like I could a few weeks ago, the poor little guy ends up really distressed, if he is at all off then dh can't even hold him while i'm in the room! As he is ebf and is with me all day, every day I'm not surprised but just wondered at what age other people's little ones became more comfortable being away from you?

My dd2 is now 11mo and will still cry with anyone else and gets very upset if I am not there - but her dad is now the exception to this rule! She has been fine being left with dh for several months now. She is apparently grumpier than if I am there, and looks for me, but is happy being with him and plays and giggles still. It's natural that when they spend all their time with mum that mum is the centre of their little world, and they need us there for it to feel safe. It gets better with time, it did with ds1, so I don't think there is any rush to try to improve or resolve this natural stage of baby development. It's a big and important lesson for them to learn that mum can go away but always comes back.

No I'm not wanting to do anything to change it, I think it is totally reasonable to not want to be separated from your only food source! And i don't really like being away from him for long anyway :) was just interested in when it tends to change as I don't have a clear idea of how baby's develop.

My LO is 6 months old and also ebf. He is more this happy to be passed around and given cuddles whether in my sight or otherwise and rarely gets upset to the extent that only I can comfort him (unless of course he's hungry).

Guess what I'm saying is that babies are different and this might be some sort of personality trait rather than a bf issue or anything like that. I guess your LO will probably grow out of it (just as my LO may well become more clingy or whatever). As long as you are ok with it, I'd say don't worry too much, it seems normal.

Oh, i didn't mean to imply it was a breast feeding issue, I'm sure lots of ebf babies are perfectly happy being with daddy:) I'm not at all worried, just making the most of being the centre of his little world as I know it won't be very long until that changes!

Ah. It was just that you mentioned LO being separated from only food source so thought perhaps you were worried from that angle.

DS is nearly 6 months and started being like this around the same time... Our fix was actually a fluke, as we went away on holiday and a week of spending all day with dad got DH back into DS's tiny circle of trust He is apparently still quicker to get upset when I'm not around, but given that he now won't even let himself be held by most of our friends and family unless they are also nursing mums (mum smell) or blonde (mum hair), it's a big deal that he can be left at all!

Do you have any time off coming up? Or can you spend weekends with him being held by his dad as much as possible (even if you have to be in the room)?

I read somewhere about teaching your lo that going away means coming back too. This made super sense to me because if mum just 'disappears' how will they know that you will come back. Now my little man is keen to wave at the window when someone goes out. I would like to claim it made settling into nursery easier but I'm not sure!!!