Bed wetting question

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DD age 5 y 1 mo, wets the bed the vast majority of nights. She refuses to put on a pull up/nappy.

After some advice on MN I know that she will be dry only when her body is ready.

I have a waterproof under sheet. I worry more about the urine against her body every night.

I've tried lifting her and this doesn't make any difference.

Should I just carry on changing the sheets and wait. Is she nearly there?

Hi there, my DD was in a pull-up at night until 5yrs and 6 or 7 months I think. We'd tried on and off to go without before and she always wet the bed. Luckily she didn't mind wearing the pull-up! Until eventually we tried and she managed to get through the night OK. We then never went back although she did have frequent accidents for a while. I don't know if it's possible to know when they are 'nearly there'. A friend of mine was trying with her ds (of about the same age) at the same time my dd managed to crack it, but he was wetting the bed every night and she eventually went back to pull-ups because of the washing! It's a tricky one. Have you had any advice from your dd's school nurse?

I think she's probably a bit young to worry as yet - I seem to remember that 7 is the age when doctors start taking bed wetting seriously.

I took my DD to see a doctor when she was 7. He was very nice, and assured her it wasn't her fault - she just wasn't producing the right hormone. He also told her that she would be dry in time - but unfortunately he couldn't tell her when.

He did offer a few solutions - none of which actually worked (this included the medication), but emphasised to me that star charts are a bad idea as the wet beds were outside of my DD's control.

As she turned 10 this month we were going to arrange to see a consultant. But quite suddenly, after all these years of trying (and my DD was desperate to be dry, and would have done anything to get dry) she's stopped bed wetting. She's absolutely delighted.

I doubt this post is very reassuring OP - but I hope it does say that your DD will get there in the end.

Thanks all.

It's not a huge deal re the washing as there's usually a wash to go on every day anyway.

That's wonderful about your DD jeee

I realise that it's out of her control but it would make life a little easier is she would wear a pull up as when she wets, she wakes and then usually crawls in with us.

I know she'll get there in the end!

I would try to persuade her to wear the pull ups if possible, even if it's just to protect her skin as you say. Maybe start with one night a week?

My DS just got dry in the last few months, he's 6.5. Happened very quickly and after about a month of using a bedwetting alarm. I think that helped just in terms of making him feel like he had some control back. I'm not sure if that's what got him dry or whether he coincidentally started making the right hormone around that time!

Took a while but eventually his wetting got later and later and then stopped.

He still wets if he sleeps in really late and occasionally for no discernible reason at all but only once in a while and SO much better than where we were!

Best of luck to you!
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She refuses to put on a pull up/nappy. You are in charge. When she wets and crawls in with you, do not let her unless she is wearing one.

Harsh, but you obviously want the problem solved.

Dd has been under paeds since she was 4, initially for daytime wetting but when that subsided for bedwetting. She was 8 in Jan and they started her on meds. After 3 months on desmopressin which inhibites urine production it turned out that actually it was a medical issue, not hormonal and she's been on anti spasmodics for q couple of months now. She's dry at night for the first time in her life and a lot better during the day too, no more urgent need for the loo with no warning and accidents if she doesn't make it.

Over the years she's had urine and blood tests and ultrasounds to rule out medical issues, unfortunately her issue wasn't picked up by those. It's still a good idea to go to the gp though to rule out any obvious medical issues.

Ds2 is 4 and wets due to constipation, when he's not constipated he's dry at night but he's nearly always constipated due to withholding. Again, not a hormonal issue.

I'm not saying the experts are wrong, the vast majority of the time it's hormonal but it can't hurt to be sure.

As for the pull ups, I insisted on them in winter as dd didn't wake when wet so could be lying in a wet bed for hours, our house is cold so I wasn't happy with that. She was never too pushed though.

Ds finally stopped of his own accord age 7, dd still wets at almost 6, the girl next door still wets too so its very common.

I absolutely insist on pull ups. Not only because of the skin issue but the smell of urine gets into the carpet, the matress, bedding and if you have a wooden bed frame, there too. Even with a plastic sheet.

My dd is bedwetting up to 3 times a night, aged 5 and 8 months. I layer her sheets with alternate disposable bed mats. Then in the middle of the night one layer is whipped off to reveal another dry sheet with a bed mat underneath. She also refuses to wear pull ups any more and it became a self esteem issue after comments from an older friend.

I find it difficult because she's getting more self conscious about it and there's no way of knowing when it will be resolved and none of my friends seem to have had this problem.

Ds (3) 7.3 yrs has been dry every night for the last 4 weeks after being wet most nights. I have always insisted on pull ups. Last night was his first night without one.

Well it's definitely good to know there's lots of other DCs and parents out there in the same situation. It often doesn't feel like that in RL.

glitter I think my DD's issue with pull ups is for the same reason.

Would she consider something like these night time pants acceptable? Definitely not a nappy design at least.

Had a big think over the weekend and have decided to go back to pull ups, "nighttime knickers" as we call them!

She was fine wearing them last night and we all got a good nights sleep

That's great Bacon, it's not worth the stress, the smell or the washing.

Ah that's good. It will come in it's own good time.

all

We had a bit of protesting tonight but nothing too dramatic.

I've been on several threads about dd and her bedwetting. She is 8 and 10 months and it's only over the last 9 months that she's become dry . She's now dry 19 out of 20 nights I'd say. I never took her to the GP as I didn't want to medicalise it. We did use an alarm recommended on here which definitely helped but in the end it was just when her body was ready. Hope that helps in some way . We used draw (?sp) sheets that go over the top of the ordinary sheet again as recommended on here so you don't have to change the whole lot every time. Will try to do links!

My dd is 9 and still wets the bed occasionally - she was very slow to potty train as a toddler and we did go to the doctors once to rule out anything medical - for a long time we lifted her at night, and then gradually stopped - She still has the odd accident, and it can be frustrating at her age, and changing all the bed etc, but the trouble is she goes into such a deep sleep that she just does not wake up. She is so much better than she used to be, but we get maybe one wet bed a week. Think we are just used to it! I never let her drink anything after dinner time, but I do know she sneaks drinks sometimes! good luck, you'll get there, hopefully quicker than us!

Try an enuresis alarm. They can train your child so that the brain and bladder can talk and she can wake up before bedwetting happens.
There are many alarms to choose from - Chummie, Malem, Dri-Sleeper etc.
I have used Chummie (www.chummie.com) and it has done miracles for my DD.
Good luck to you.

Have you been on the website Eric? Very useful for info on bed wetting. Ds is 6.5 and still wets 2/3 times a night. Gp has just agreed to refer him.

The problem with getting them referred is that it suddenly makes it into a big deal. Although I can understand that for some children it is a big deal already. My nephew was referred at 6 and this was when he became aware that he actually had a problem. Nothing they tried did anything to help and my sister often wonders if he would have outgrown it quicker without it being made into such a big issue. He was almost 10 before he was dry.

Her experience is the main reason I decided just to ride it out with ds3. Ds3 was happy to wear pyjama pants and was not too bothered about it. He is now dry a couple of months after his 7th birthday.

I do agree with you jinty. It really bothers my ds though. He managed a one night trip away with beavers quite well, but was very anxious that the others might see his 'nappy'. He's also so wet at night that 9 times out of 10 his pull up won't hold it and he needs a bath and clean bedding. He doesn't seem to have much control in the daytime either with frequent trips to the toilet and often has wet (but not soaking) pants where he just seems to have left going til the last second. It's great to hear that so many have become dry of their own accord. Heres hoping!

I can completely see why you would want some professional advice. Ds3 did have a little phase (this summer - first time being allowed to play out alone) of leaving it too late and being a bit wet but generally has been dry in the day since 3.3 years (the latest of mine to toilet train). Also for the last year or so he has rarely wet right through his pyjama pants so, for us, it hasn't been a huge issue. Ds could have gone on an overnight with Beavers but didn't feel ready this year and is not interested in sleepovers at the moment so it hasn't been too much of a problem.

Hope it all comes together for you soon.