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AIBU to not want my 6 year old to go to party on his own.

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rainbow26 · 26/09/2013 17:53

My 6 year old ds has been invited to go to a laser party with his friend from school and four other boys from their class;the parents of the birthday boy have asked for us to drop ds off at their house and they will take the children in their 7 seated car.My ds is quite excited about going but I can't help but feel nervous about him going to this laser place without me.I know the parents,but not well enough to trust my ds with them,I can't help feel that maybe 5 excited little boys might be too much for them to keep an eye on,especially in a dark laser party where other adults will be running about too.Please give your opinion on this as I can't help feel that I might be being slightly over protective,but he is only 6 and my gut feeling is to not let him go,but I know he would be devastated .

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GreenShadow · 26/09/2013 17:58

At 6 I would expect it to be normal for the child to be dropped off for a party. Parents wouldn't normally stay.

The laser place will be quite safe - the only problem ours ever had at parties like this were they they got tired very quickly as the equipment is quite heavy.

I really would let him go - he'll be fine and have a great time.

BrianTheMole · 26/09/2013 18:06

Its normal to be dropped off at that age.

ilovepowerhoop · 26/09/2013 18:06

ds is 6 and went to a laser party. We just dropped him off and picked him up at the end.

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MirandaWest · 26/09/2013 18:07

I'd be fine with it - when DS was 6 he had a party where we took him and 4 of his friends, plus DD to a soft play place and then back here - think they probably all were 6 but one or two might have been 5. We didn't lose any :)

StitchingMoss · 26/09/2013 18:08

I wouldn't have any issue with this.

cherrytomato40 · 26/09/2013 18:08

Totally normal at this age, unless it is a really long drive away?

SparkleSoiree · 26/09/2013 18:09

I think dropping off at a party when 6yrs old is perfectly normal. I would have no qualms about my child going to a venue with the parents if I thought they were capable of looking after them in their own home for a couple of hours without me there.

It can be a worrying experience but when he comes back having had a great time you will wonder what you were worrying about.

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rainbow26 · 26/09/2013 18:23

Thanks guys,,am feeling a bit happier about the idea now.I guess it's just me being slightly overprotective .cherrytomato40 it is about a 20 minute drive away.Think I just need to take a deep breath and let ds go for a few hours.Its nice to have other parents perspective on things,so thanks again everyone xx

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BellaVita · 26/09/2013 18:25

It will be fine.

Sonnet · 26/09/2013 19:05

Yabu, it will be fine and the norm from now on

Moonstorm · 27/09/2013 23:15

I wouldn't be worried about the laser party, but I wouldn't be keen on someone else driving him without knowing what they drive like (due to personal experience) and I don't think the back seats in a 7 seater are particularly safe.

BackforGood · 27/09/2013 23:21

...and I always thought that offering to take them was - you know - helpful to other families.

jellybeans · 29/09/2013 17:40

I am extremely anxious and overprotective but would probably be ok with this. Is your son likely to wander off or run into road etc? That's the main reason I didn't let mine on their own until they could be safe like that and they were about 6 (my girls were much earlier). My 4 year old is not going anywhere without me yet and have had to turn down unaccompanied play dates already as he is such a handful and can't cope with the laid back parents who let their kids run ahead etc. DS is in the road unless I keep close tabs on him and hold his hand. Overall though if you are that worried make an excuse or ask if you can text them halfway to check as you are nervous with DS having not been before.

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rainbow26 · 29/09/2013 21:41

I'm quite lucky with ds as he is very sensible for his age and we'll behaved for other so that side would be fine.He actually went to laser dome yesterday I bit the bullett and let him go and he had a fab time,he was really tired after it though which meant he was in bed sleeping by 8pm last night so not a bad result all round I thought .Got to be honest though don't think I would have let him go if it hadn't had been for everyone's replies on here,so thanks again everyone.

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jellybeans · 29/09/2013 22:20

ah glad he had a great time :) i remember the first time my boys went on cub camp age 7 about an hour away up a cliff edge, i was a nervous wreck all weekend but they loved it and i was really glad i let them go. Part of the stress of parenting!

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