Bed wetting since starting school

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My DD1 has started reception, and has almost every night since wet the bed. Before then, she would be dry 13/14 nights generally. She is almost 5, went to the school nursery and is in a class with friends. She is adjusting to being away from home all day and having lunch away from home.

I don't know if she needs to drink more in the day, whether she is just so tired she doesn't wake (so hopefully as her stamina builds she will wake up if she needs a wee), whether it is anxiety or what.

Most nights, she can't do a last wee before bed anymore, so she may go at 5 pm and that's it. She tries, but doesn't need it. She is offered a drink when we get in (4pm) and with tea (4.45 ish). She is in bed for 6.45 /7.00

I am reluctant to lift, but it did work last night (but tonight she wet the bed before 10pm instead).

Advice?

If it has happened to you, how long do I wait it out?

My 4yr DD has had 2 recent occasions when this has occurred. Since being dry at night (over 9 months now) I could count on one hand how many time she has wet the bed. However over the summer she spent a week away from us at grandparents for the very first time, and whilst she enjoyed it a lot and outwardly showed no sign of anxiety, she wet the bed almost every night and stopped almost as soon as she was back with us. She never gets up in the night for a wee, she always just holds it until the morning, so it wasn't simply that she was unsure of her environment or not wanting to get up in a different house.

She also started Reception a few weeks back and while it hasn't been every night, we have had a few accidents, and like you some have been far too early in the night to be about bladder being over full. Again she seems very happy as school, knows 90% of the class from pre-school, is used to full days as has been at nursery full time since 9mths old and is showing no outward signs of anxiety.

It seems to make no difference how much she has drunk during the day either, and in fact she has a sports bottle on her bedside cabinet which some nights she drains and still doesn't need a mid night wee - often has to be persuaded to go to the loo on waking otherwise she just wants to play - so I think she has a good bladder capacity/control.

My assumption is that she is suffering some form of internalised anxiety (we've also had a surge of "bad dreams" since starting school which are also rare for her) and I have been really careful to be totally supportive and make her realise its not a big deal as I am fairly confident it will pass.

I would give it is while longer with your daughter if I were you as I suspect its entirely situational and it will sort itself out.

Good luck though x

Hi, thanks for your reply, really helpful.

I have hopes that it will pass, and I too haven't made a thing of changing the bed at all. Just interested to hear what others do.

Try a bedwetting alarm. There are many available. I got a chummie for my DD and its been alifesaver.
Be advised that parental assistance is necessary and your child will overcome bedwetting if the process is followed through correctly.
You can get them on a website or online at www.chummie.com

Thank you!