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That would never happen to me... (long post)

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crepessuzette · 24/09/2013 11:06

I've read news articles about young children who managed to escape from their houses or found themselves stuck in the most obscure places and other similar stories. I've always thought "what irresponsible parents, that would never happen to me" .... until yesterday.....

I had just returned from a regular supermarket shop. Parked on the drive, unlocked the front door, extracted LO from his car seat and plonked him on the door step - as usual. Walked 3 steps to the car to collect the shopping, heard a loud bang and turned round to find the front door closed with my 12 month old son inside the house. No matter, I had enough foresight to keep hold of the front door key so I calmly went to re-open the door, except it wouldn't open. It took a few seconds to realise that he had not only closed the door but twisted the bottom deadlock into place... he had locked me out.

Fortunately we have glass panes on our front door so I could see LO and gently called to him through the letterbox and tried to explain to him that he just needed to undo the bolt so mummy could come in.... he just needed to undo the bolt which he had only just locked, it was a simple and rational solution in my mind. But seriously, have you tried describing something like that to a 12 month old? Instead he scampered into the kitchen to chase after the cat.

At this point I jolted awake from the confused and sleepless state that I have grown so accustomed to over the last year and realisation dawned. I helplessly looked on at my son who was locked unattended in the house. Horrified I started to spot the hazards I'd left unattended as we hurried out earlier in the day - stair gate left open, toilet door left open, bucket full of water and floor cleaner left in the kitchen, an increasingly tetchy cat.

Sadly you can't rely on me in an emergency, I crumble and panic like hell. I kind of knew I needed to call 999 but needed someone to confirm so I called hubby instead (totally hysterical, rational thinking completely out of the window) who told me to get off the bloody phone and call the damned fire brigade.

Looking back I feel a bit sorry for the leafleteer whose untimely delivery to my door left them consoling me for the 10 minutes it took the fire brigade to arrive. It was also strange how all the residents in the street suddenly, at the very same time, had something they needed to do urgently in either their cars or front gardens.

Now by this stage LO realised he was on his own and stood right next to the door bawling. After a bit of deliberation the firemen decided the only way to get into the house was to knock the door down but LO needed to move away from the door first. Back to square one - trying to instruct a hysterical 12 month old to do something. The kindly fireman gave it a good shot "come on lad, go and sit over by the cat, go and sit at the bottom of the stairs". But LO was having none of it.

In the end they managed to break through the bolt anyway with no harm done to my son, we now just need to replace the door frame for £650. I'm thankful it ended well, I can't bring myself to think about what other terrible ways the sorry tale could have ended..

I'm sure I'm now the talk of the street, "what an irresponsible mother...., that would never happen to me."

Am I a dreadful mother and should social services be whisking my son away right now? Or do any other mums and dads have similar experiences they can share to make me feel better about myself?

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PyjamasNotBananas · 24/09/2013 13:03

Ohh dear. I sympathise! Never had this particular thing happen to me but I can see how it could so easily happen to anyone! No social services shouldn't come take your DS away!

It's terrifying to think of. I know my DS2 who is 21 months sometimes closes the back door when I'm out hanging washing up (thankfully has no dead locks) and he can't open it and starts to scream and cry until I come 'rescue' him. They panic so much when they realise they're separated from you. There's no way my DS2 even now would have moved out the way of the door when in that state either. Following instructions when hysterical is never going to happen.

So pleased it had a happy ending and you and your DS are unharmed!

shutitweirdo · 24/09/2013 13:12

My DM was looking after Ds and he turned the key in the back door when she was in the garden. She had her front door key pinned to her as the front door locks when shut. He couldn't let her in and the garden is totally enclosed. She yelled until and old man appeared then she gave him the key so he could go and let her in. My dmil got locked out the front with Ds and no key luckily the back door was open and a neighbour lifted a fence panel and let them in. Luckily I found out after or I would've panicked too.

mummyxtwo · 24/09/2013 13:17

No you're not an irresponsible mum!! You're a careful and caring mum with a small child, and small children have the amazing ability to shut themselves into things or fall off things just when you think there is no way they can come to mishap. I know two caring mums whose dc's have got locked inside a car - one in their driveway, the other in a National Trust stately home carpark on a hot sunny day. I believe the AA turned up in lightning speed just as my friend was having a hysterical meltdown in front of a gathering small crowd and was about to smash her own car windows in.

I also have a tendency to panic just when the small sensible voice in my head is starting to say "stay calm, no need to pani..." Maternal protective instincts are quite effective at stamping down that quiet sensible voice, unfortunately. Glad your lo was fine and all ended okay! (apart from the unfortunate door). And what were your neighbours thinking, hovering nosily in their gardens?! They should have been there assisting and placating, not trying to get a peek at the I'm sure very entertaining action - shame on them!

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Sparklysilversequins · 24/09/2013 13:20

I went out to the car to get something and the door shut behind me, it was worse as it was a first floor flat. Ds was around 5 months, not crawling or mobile but on the floor on his play mat.

I called out the fire brigade in floods of tears and they were brilliant. Got the ladders out and one of them climbed up through the living room window. He brought red faced, furious ds (who'd never been left to cry for more than 30 seconds in his life - PFB Blush) down the stairs to me and everyone cheered Grin. They could not have been more lovely and even said it made a nice change to come out to do something like that.

Glad it was all ok OP, SO scary!

AngryFeet · 24/09/2013 13:22

DD was 3.5 and DS was 1 when they managed to lock themselves in MILs bathroom. After 5 minutes of trying to explain how they needed to post the key back under the door DS was getting hysterical. Finally after 15 mins DD got the idea and key was shoved under the door to us. Only to discover it didn't unlock the door from the outside because a bit of the lock surround was in the way. Nightmare! Luckily we found a neighbour with a screwdriver who removed the lock but after 40 mins they were both very very upset. Anyway they got over it and I didn't consider myself a bad mother - shit happens :)

Twunk · 24/09/2013 13:30

I lost DS1 in ikea once when he was less than 2. Turned my back for 5 seconds to sort out his baby brother - looked back and DS1 had vanished. He'd gone to look at an interesting toy at the other end of the restaurant. When he was found he was very wet (we'd been going to change his nappy when he buggered off!) but perfectly unfazed. The restaurant patrons all cheered and I burst into tears of relief. Longest 15 minutes of my life!

lemontwist · 24/09/2013 13:30

Things happen and its all over and no harm done. My mum was looking after my boys one afternoon. DH had been in the middle of changing the door on DS2's room and it had no handle on one side so had been propped open. Toddler DS1 somehow managed to shut it with DM and DS2 in the room and him on the outside with free run of the house. DM had to shout out of the window for a passer by to come and let her out! Needless to say DH's first job when he got home was to fix the door!

fruitpastille · 24/09/2013 13:31

My ds locked himself in the bathroom just before I was about to put him in the already full bath! Luckily age 4 he was able to follow instrctions so we could break in with a big hammer. Have you read Alfie gets in First, by Shirley Hughes? Fab.

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Editededition · 24/09/2013 13:49

I did class myself as a bad mother, because I trusted my (now X)DH to be a sensible parent and hang on to the hand of his 3 year old at a busy, large, Sunday market - pre-Christmas!
I went to look at a stall - telling him that he had control of the DCs as it was too crowded for them to come with me.
Returned after a couple of minutes to find no 3 year old in sight and and a father who hadn't even noticed her absence.
I went into total meltdown. I am not a panicker normally, but descended to sustained screaming, and pleas to every person in sight.

After some 5 minutes of total terror, DC actually walked towards us. At which point (X)DH advised me that the whole thing was my fault for leaving them with him.....its wasn't his job to watch 'bloody children'.

Have to say that the market organisers were amazing. They had locked down every entrance/exit and we were accosted at least a dozen times on our way out ....having to answer a lot of questions to prove that DC was actually mine.
Still doesn't bear thinking about though.

Yet another reason why its no surprise I am divorced.

Sindarella · 24/09/2013 13:55

I went into the porch to pick up the mail when ds was 2, he slammed the door shut, the front door was locked with the keys. Which were on the stairs. I was stuck locked in the porch!

The door had a single pane of glass in it, an i could see ds on the stairs Shock for some unknown reason there was a golf club in the porch with me ( never been so happy to be a hoarder!) Smashed the glass, terrifying ds in the process.

He never did it again.

Steben · 24/09/2013 13:58

You will laugh about this in a few years OP - my eldest dd did this she 2 (luckily was managed to talk into opening it!) said deadlock hole now filled with blue tack. Also managed to let dd somehow lock herself into car as she was playing with keys in her car seat (I know I know) while I loaded shopping and when I shut boot she deEdlocked it. Keys phone everything in car - hysterically burst into shops to grab first phone to get DH whilst making a trolley man stand guard over a screaming dd. Surely that makes you feel better!

Abra1d · 24/09/2013 14:02

I locked my daughter in the car when she was a little baby. It was back in the days when you could actually do this. It was a roasting hot day and she started to cry.
Luckily for me there happened to be an RAC van in the supermarket carpark attending to someone else. I waved him down and he used one of those wire thingies to unlock the door.

I rang RAC and asked them to tell his boss what he'd done. I was so grateful. So OP, these things are easily done. It is such a horrible feeling, though!

Tailtwister · 24/09/2013 14:02

I'm glad it was ok in the end OP. It's frightening how easily something like that can happen.

I locked DS2 (3) in the car last week. I put my handbag (with keys inside) on the front passenger seat whilst I put him into his car seat, shut both doors and then realised the doors were locked! I don't know how it happened, but had to get DH to come back from work with his house keys so I could retrieve the spare car keys. Luckily it didn't take long and DS didn't get upset. It was very frightening though.

oohdaddypig · 24/09/2013 14:03

I've locked my DC in the car (keys inside, stupid bloody locking itself mechanism) with the dog.

DH, who isn't remotely calm, starts to rock the car back and forwards with its roof bars (as if that will open car)

Neighbours all watch like we are loons probably phoning social services at the same time

Amazingly I located the spare key. I will never ever buy a car again that locks itself automatically...

Anyway what a tale you tell. I like the sound of the leaflet-eer. Have you left a spare key now with neighbours?! Grin

crepessuzette · 24/09/2013 14:15

Thank you everyone for all your responses and reassurance. I don't personally know anyone else who has suffered this sort of dreadful experience with their LO's however reading these posts (some of which really made me laugh out loud - they all turned out ok in the end) it clearly isn't an unusual ordeal.

I've taken a photo of the damage with DS sat next to it looking rather pleased with himself, so I can tell him the story when he's older. I've now added the back door key to my key ring too.

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elvisola · 24/09/2013 14:18

When I was childminding I popped into the integral garage to grab the double buggy. I had unlocked the front door and my bag/phone/keys were on the stairs. As the door shut behind me one of the little sods turned the metal key locking me in!!

I was 22 weeks pregnant and trying to kick down a solid wooden door, it was pitch black and I had visions of them wandering down the street. I had no phone, my streets dead quiet and I was getting quite hysterical.

I still don't know if it was some sort of internal locking mechanism or sheer brute force but eventually after a bit of a battering the garage door just slid up and I got out.

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