Thought I wanted DC2 but after a MC, I dont want any more. Anyone ever felt this?

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MC was a while ago, so I dot feel the grief is affecting my decision.

Dh and I have always swayed between having a second or not and we thought we would TTC. Fell pg and were genuinely happy about it, with a nervous edge at the prospect.of a newborn and a two year old.

After MC we decided to wait til Christmas before discussing our next step, and as we get closer I feel stronger and stronger that I just dont want another one.

I will be sad at never being pregnant again, picking a name, having a snuggly newborn, but life is, frankly, wonderful at the.moment.

Dd is a joy, and life with her is easy, even though we both work ft (I do mad shifts), and I am starting to think about next steps at work. OUr home is perfect for three, too small in all honesty for four.

It all makes.me feel really guilty rhough......I know had the pg been sucessful we wouldnt have regretted it, but Ive just had a total change of heart.

So just go with the happiness at the moment and enjoy the life you have.
I'm so pleased that you and your family were strong enough to get through the MC together and that you are feeling positive and enthusiastic about the future.
I'm very much a live for the moment and cherish what you have right now sort of person, and deal with future stuff when you get there. You may change your mind, you may not.

Go with your heart.

My sis had a MC earlier this year, it was a late MC (13 weeks) so they had told everyone. I think there is almost an expectation that she will 'go' again. She has changed her mind and doesn't seem to want another one now. Like you she was quite excited about tHe prospect of another child but now no longer wants to try for another. My sis is focusing on how nice her life is now and they are coming out of the baby years for their first children. You are not alone in your change of heart.

You know what is best for you.

Don't feel guilty! You have to do what is right for your family :)

This happened to me - 2 and a half years ago we lost a little girl at 17 weeks. It was a protracted miscarriage and I spent a long time in hospital and had to have several surgeries and a serious infection. It was my 7th MC (we have 2 dc) but it was the one which made me think enough is enough. Before and during it I was desperate for another baby, almost as soon as I had physically recovered though I was adamant that that was it and the thought of being pregnant now terrifies me! It was a complete change of heart. I never thought I'd not feel broody but I don't at all.

Just like Methe I had 7 mcs but only thought after the 7th that enough was enough.
Happy with our lot ( we have a son) we stopped. That was that.
That decision put an end to about 6 years of horror and heart break.

All the best. It is hard.

Thank you everyone.

My MC was at 11 weeks, so assumed we were in the safe zone.

I havebt told dh how I feel yet, I dont want to cloud his thoughts and would like him to make an unbiased decision.