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2 yo DS HATES nursery-what next?

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hypnotisingchickens · 22/09/2013 11:35

DS is 2.5. I am a teacher, and last year worked 4 days a week, DS was with a childminder that he adores. In September I went back to FT at work, and DS started at a local nursery 2 days a week, staying with the childminder for 3 days. The childminder doesn't work on Fridays, so FT there wasn't an option.
Fast forward 3 weeks, and he HATES nursery. Cries on and off all day when there, and tells me that he was sad when I pick him up. The staff are all very kind to him, but every day I find him wandering around with a sad face attached to his key worker. I am also not entirely happy with the systems at the nursery, mornings seem very chaotic and his key worker has been off sick 3 days out of the 6 he has attended.
Now here's the complication - I am 22 weeks pregnant, so he will be leaving nursery anyway at Christmas (it's near to my work and 40 mins from home, so not sustainable on mat leave.). Do I stick it out for the 2 days a week with a miserable boy knowing it will end in 12 weeks or so? His CM has offered to have him back for one extra day, would one day at nursery unsettle him even more? Or should I look for a completely different option for the one remaining nursery day and withdraw him altogether? It makes me so sad to think of him so unhappy. Sad

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MrsZimt · 22/09/2013 11:43

I would take him out of nursery, take the extra day at cm and find another solution for the last remaining day. He is probably out of his comfort zone in a nursery setting. My ds was the same. Have you got anyone who could look after him for the one day?
It would only be until Chistmas, that's maybe 10 days?

The alternative would be to take the extra cm day and keep him in nursery for one day. At least he would be happier on one more day.
Good luck!

BarberryRicePud · 22/09/2013 13:46

I agree, is there a family member who could help out for 1 day a week til Christmas? Or perhaps a local play group or another childminder you could use?

What will you do after mat leave? If you're planning a childminder for dc2 and that needs to be Fridays too then maybe consider looking now for someone different.

Would your current cm consider Fridays too just til Christmas?

I couldn't work effectively if I thought DS was unhappy so I do sympathise.

hypnotisingchickens · 22/09/2013 16:22

Thanks for your replies, glad no-one thinks I'm bonkers for thinking of withdrawing him. Unfortunately no family within a 200 mile radius, and cm doesn't seem to be budging, but even one day at nursery is better than 2. We're moving away after DC2 arrives, so Fridays shouldn't be a problem then.

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