5 yr old dd has tantrum, anybody has any advice, pls?

[sebnem]

i am a single parent to a 5 yr old dd. we broke up with her father a couple of yrs ago through violence, after that me and her we lived in refuges long time till we got our own place.
during all these phases i think i couldnt dicipline her enough, and sometimes i feel so upset.
the last event today happened like that:
everyday after school she wants to go to a play ground which is very close to school.
i feel responsible, i feel she needs to take out some energy so i let her go there, we stay everyday about an hour me watching her all the time. we live in a flat we dont have garden so i think she needs such play time.
some days after play when i say 'we going now' she screams a bit, she doesnt want to go home.
but today she made horrible.
she was at the top of slide screaming, crying, making everbody look at us.
after some time i had to climb the stairs to take her. she came down, but till going to home she screamed, cried. btw we had a 5 min shop visit too where she cried too.
she cried everwhere.
i cant explain how much that upset me.
till this age she did that scream and cry at least 6-7 times on the streets till home.
thats horrible.
now i feel so angry and upset.
when i say what u did was horrible, she cries 'i dont want to be horrible' till home.
now i dont like to go out with her.
recently i got her a byke but i dont know how i will take her to park and teach her to ride.
i came to a position i dont like to go out with her, especially to parks.
anybody has any advice??????

Sebnem, it sounds like she's tired. It's completely normal for a tired 5 year old who is being crossed to have a tantrum. Try and ignore the tantrum, and don't stop taking her to the park! or on her bike. You could try warning her 5 minutes in advance and praising her when she comes.

Sounds a difficult situation. Do you give her several advance "warnings" before it's time to go? DD will always react badly if I suddenly remove her from something fun.

Might also be worth saying something like "going to the park is alot of fun, but I need you to leave quietly when it's time to go". You could let her know what behaviour you expect of her, and maybe she'll be able to comply once you've planted the idea in her mind.

thanks a lot for sharing this with me.
if i ignore her tantrum, she can continue hours, she doesnt stop screaming/crying. i think its cos she is tired after the school, she doesnt get anthing, any explanation.

thanks a lot Earlybird, Sibdoms for sharing that problem with me and thanks for your nice advices .