Interacting with baby during the daytime

[Dadzilla]

The midwife advised that it's best to avoid contact with baby during the night, to avoid stimulating him and causing him to get into the pattern of crying and then getting what he wants. It's worked quite well, avoiding eye contact, talking and so on.

I'm thinking of applying this during the day as well, until he can talk. It would be so much easier if I don't have to look at him or talk to him, and then we can just have some peace and quiet. When he's old enough to talk, he can ask for food himself, but until that time, I am keen on the idea of reducing this continual whingeing. Has anyone else tried this?

Are you serious?!

no, that really won't work. your baby needs lots of eye contact and chatter and interaction from you during the daytime. this will help your baby learn to talk and to interact with people. If you don't talk to baby & interact, how do you think baby will learn to talk?

Also, the important thing with the eye contact is the difference between day and night - it works because you engage in the day and not in the night. if you disengage all day, baby will be miserable and cry in the night more.

Ah?

I think surely this op was a joke??

Ha! Funny one. Nice one OP.

Oh do fuck off!

WTF?

Well if this isn't a joke or a troll.

I interact lots with my ds and generally he is a very happy baby. But I have noticed he whines quite alot and is definitely trying it on. I don't think you can just not interact with him, poor thing.

However, when ds starts whining and I can see it's potentially for no reason I do leave him for a minute or so to see what happens. For instance he cries when I put him down quite alot so I leave him to see what he will do next. More often then not when he isn't getting my attention he stops. I then give him my attention. But only for a minute or so, if the crying continues I go to him. Maybe try this rather than just ignoring him completely.

But I always check he's not crying for a reason like hunger,thirst,nappy,sleep,pain or needs reassurance before leaving him

Yes, don't talk to the baby. Put it in a bouncy chair facing the wall in a dark room, or even put a sheet over it if you have one handy.

Actually, screw all that, do you have access to your loft??

You're spot on, OP.
DS is coming up for 2yo - wait, it might be 3yo, I'll have to ask DH - and we've never given eye contact.
I've just been to his room where he's sleeping to peel back an eyelid and can confirm he has green eyes - funny, I hadn't noticed before. Oh, I was careful not to talk to him when he woke up with his nightlight aimed at his eye.

Btw, is your midwife named Ms Hitler? At the Portland? I've heard rave reviews about her

Tsssssssss. Dingies.

Some People must really have crappy lives to be that bored to bother writing stuff like that just to get a reaction.

Do this and it's likely your DS will not talk at all. You have some odd ideas.

I find that reality programmes where the camera pans to an individual talking directly to the camera provides all the interaction my baby needs. The golden 2 hours of my ds learning and development comes from 4-6 when he learns from the real housewives of series and then come dine with me. The rest of the time he's in the garden, and luckily he thinks his mum could be one of 6 women so doesn't whinge at me!