Morning Dramas with 5 year old dd. About clothes...already!

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DD has a school uniform but she is very picky about which bits she wears. If it is cold she wants to wear the summer uniform, if she does agree to wer the winter uniform then it has to be the one with the frigging belt.
I bought her two lovely boyfriend cardigans from Asda (as that was the only type that they had left) and she says they are too baggy for her. We had a struggle this morning as I wanted her to wear tights as it's cold this morning and she wanted to wear socks. Wore tights but she moaned .
I have tried putting uniform out the night before. This sometimes works but occasionally she will tip the contents of her draws out to find something more suitable. I am firm wit her but I get lots of back chat. She is very stubborn and sometimes it escalates into an argument. What can I do?

You're the mum, she is 5. Tell her what she needs to wear to be warm and comfortable and that's that.

I know its easier said than done, I have a 6yo DD who likes to try on 7 different outfits and leave them all over her floor. It got to the stage where I removed all her clothes except for dressing up outfits and put them in my wardrobe, so she had to come and ask for new clothes when she needed them! She's since 'earned them back' but I still have the final word on what she wears for school and elsewhere.

If you want DD to have some choice perhaps give her the option of 'blue tights or grey' or put the socks away until March and tell her tights/trousers are for winter. WRT the cardigans I would say tough, they are the ones I have bought, they are the ones you wear, its not up for discussion. Perhaps try a sticker chart, add one for each day she gets dressed without an argument and at the end she gets some new hair clips or a winter hat or something?

Its a shame girls have so many variations in a way - with boys its so simple, t-shirt, jumper, trousers. Girls can choose trousers, skirts, pinafores, summer dresses (choice of 2 colours), cardigans or jumpers - it makes it seem that the way they look is more important, whereas really its a uniform FFS, they should all wear the same and get on with learning.

I would fully support my school if they said that all girls had to wear trousers, t-shirt and a jumper just like the boys.

I already have this with my 3 year old! No school uniform yet but we have battles over tights v socks and she wants to wear dresses every day , preferably party dresses. She needs to wear sensible clothes for pre-school. I have done what TwoSteps suggested and removed as much choice as I can get away with from her wardrobe and into mine!

DD1 hates her school cardi as she thinks it's too baggy (I've pointed out that all the other kids wear them but she doesn't seem to care about that). On v cold days she'll normally put it on to walk to school but take it off at the school gate, but she has it in her book bag for if she needs it. They decide the night before what they're wearing (if the previous days' uniform is clean enough they get that again). In the morning if the weather's changed from the previous day I send them to stand in the garden 20 mins before we have to leave so they can decide if they need to swap socks for tights or put on a cardi. Then when it's time to leave if they change their mind it's tough.

My 3.5 year old has to be bribed to wear trousers of any kind. She has a pre school uniform which can be skirt or trousers but when the skirt's in the wash mornings are a battleground!