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to try for num2 or not

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zoesmum2012 · 16/09/2013 16:42

Hi I've got a 9 month baby girl whom I love with all of my heart for the past few months I've been wanting number 2 but money both me and dh don't work but dh trying with all is might to get a job its just not happening so be stupid to get preg now I got mild pnd after birth but its almost gone now so it would be selfih to risk it with two dc and the risk of dd being left out failed at ebf her so I plan to try ebf dc2. We live I 2 bed flat which is not ideal but even with all they worrys I still want dc2 dh wants to waith til working etc which is fair enough I feel like somethings missing all they worrys will be nowt in 10 yrs time but they are still preventing. The pill being stoped will love other peoples aoptian on this thanks
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WillSingForCake · 16/09/2013 19:29

It doesn't sound like a great idea to be honest. Your DD is only 9 months old, if I were you I'd just enjoy her, and see what the future brings regarding jobs.

NeedlesCuties · 16/09/2013 19:36

What age are you?

If you're pushing 40 years old, I'd say get a move on... if you're only 20 (for example) then my advice is to wait a while until your DP has a job and maybe till you're in a bigger flat/house.

I had a 2.5 year gap between my kids and for me that was ideal. Each couple is different though.

Hang round this section and read some of the threads about toddlers and newborns and you might change your mind

sharond101 · 16/09/2013 22:12

I think it depends on your age. If you are still young then wait until it can be a less stressful experience for you as a family with fewer money worries and fewer demands on you as your DD will be older so it will be more economical and easier to have a newborn (e.g can reuse cot, pram, toys etc instead of having to buy new ones as DD1 is still needing them also DD1 could be out of nappies, in nursery, able to help and play with a newbaby if you waited a while.) My DS is 16mo. I was desperate for another since he was around 6mo but so glad we have waited as he is so demanding of my time just now I don't know how i would find time to care for a newborn or how I would manage to survive the guilt of not being able to give him as much of the attention he needs. A bigger gap means you can enjoy each of them individually for a bit longer.

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toolatetobed · 16/09/2013 23:56

If you're under 30 I would definitely say wait a while and enjoy being able to give plenty of attention to your little girl. I think the decision is less obvious if you're much over 30.

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zoesmum2012 · 17/09/2013 00:14

Thanks ladies I think we will wait intil she's older am 21 so all the time in the world at the moment and anyway I've seen mums out with 2+ kids enough to scare me of atm :).

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sharond101 · 17/09/2013 12:26

Oh blimey no no wait and have fun with your DD first. At 21 you have 15+ years to consider having another!!! Think of it like this, if you are to have another now you would miss out on some of the precious new baby moments because it would be so hectic. By waiting you still have this to look forward to.

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