My dc2 is nearly two and a half. She goes to a CM with her older sister and the CM's 3 children.
she is small for her age and looks babyish and everyone wants to pick her up and cuddle her, she doesn't like it and can be absolutely vicious. She scratches or pinches hard and has left serious marks on dd1 and on the CM's children.
At home, I try to manage this by preventing dd1 from smothering dd2 with "affection" and if dd2 is violent she has to sit on the step and apologise. She is noticeably reluctant to apologise (her speech is very good, this is not a problem).
I think alongside expressing that scratching is not ok we should be talking about dd2 expressing her boundaries acceptably - saying "no cuddles" or something - and having them respected. Does anyone have any advice on how to get the CM's children on board with this? It is hard enough with my own dd1 but I have no control at all over them.
What do you think?