my baby is getting all grown up........sob!

[alexsmum]

My son who is six is going to a friend's house for tea this evening.Nothing so strange about this except it's the first time he's been to eat at the home of someone I don't really know.He's had tea at friend's houses before of course,but i know the mums of most of his friends really well.I don't know this family from adam.
The friend HAS been our house for tea and he and ds behaved like demons! I had also asked the mum what kinds of foods the boy ate beforehand, and on the day he rejected about 4 different meals before we found something he liked!
His mum hasn't asked what ds will eat and i have a vision of him being fed egg and beans and trying desperately not to throw up!
Just feel really strange about this...am i being madly over protective? Should i not be giving this a second thought or is it normal to worry?

so it is just me! sigh.
i'm going to be worried about this all day!

I worry about this type of thing as well. Hope it goes ok.

it's not just the food, it's the being in the home of someone i don't know.how do i know what kind of thing goes on in their house?

Mine is only 3, so no experience, just didn't want you to feel neglected!

i have a faint memory with my fisrt!!! its normal just chill!

are you a Mum?

Then it is normal to worry! It is your job. (low paid I know but hey!)

He will be fine - you spent time choosing a meal with his friend and it is likely his mum will do the same for your child.

It is strange though when they are old enough to start branching out on their own, I am almost peramnently suffering from withdrawal symptoms as one or more child of mine grows up a little bit more

securmummy-ds2 starts pre-school in september.
i am going to be white haired in a week without at least one child here for me to keep an eye on!

dd1 starts high school in Seoptember, dd2 has started walking back from school alone, ds starts reception in January and dd3 is soon to start Nursery school - I am set up for nearly a year of being let down slowly by my children

I am just dreading dd3 starting school in a couple of years - then it will hit, not only am I really not going to have any more babies, but also I am no longer needed by my angels every second of every day - in fact I may have to own up to the fact that really it was me that needed them... not them that needed me (actually may put taht realisation of for a while longer yet )

oh dear god! what a year! i'm going to have have another baby when ds2 goes to full time school-i'll just have to!

Is is a good idea the thing is though, going on that theory I will have had 8 children by the time I hit the menopause....

That would almost be a family for the record books these days lol!

i guess i could explore the option of having my own life.........

this playdate this afternoon really is sitting uncomfortably with me.if i could have thought of a reason to say no i would have, but like dh said , he has to make his own friends.worry worry.

Wait until he is a teenager and then not only will you not know the friends he is hanging around with you will absolutly hate the ones you do know... Just waiting for this one to start with dd1

well -got to say not overly impressed by this kid when he came here.behaviour terrible and table manners non-existent.and apparently they are not allowed to sit next to each other in school

I understand how you feel - once you've got to know his circle of friends and the parents you will relax. My DD is 7 so I've just reached that stage now but DS is starting school in Sept so it's going to start all over again.

Relax a bit or you'll have a migraine by tea time! - assume that he will be cared for as you care for him and remember he is old enough to speak up so if he wants to come home or doesn't like something he will say so.

I piggin' hate this growing up business they do.

lol!!!

ahh, well I have to admit I wouldn't like it in that case - although that is probably horribly judgemental of me! Having said that, if this other house is more lax aobut hte rules than you are then ds will probably love it as a one off type thing (do all those things you don't do at home!).

I still wouldn't stop him - he has to learn to select friends himself now so that includes mistakes and (unfortunatly) friends I don't like!

that's what dh said! the voice of reason!

i've warned him to be on his best behaviour!

Also,try and keep your feelings to yourself,the more you dislike a friend,the more they will love them and seek out their company.
If you just remain neutral they kind of work out for themselves who's good to be with and who isn't.

lol - I am sure he will be an complete credit to you, you have obviously done a good job with him so realx and let him branch out now

(she says whilst carefully closing mind to impending childfree status )