Are you a girl with 2 brothers either side? What was it like?

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I have a DS then DD then DS. 6,3 and 1.

I sometimes feel sorry for her. My DS, 6 and DS 1 just adore each other and I can imagine (with the personality of older DS) they will be close brothers for life.

I look at her and feel she needs a sister!! There needs to be more girly-ness around. Maybe I just wish I had a sister.
All my friends seem to have sisters they are close to. Sisters tend to keep the family together. Boys tend to move out and move on. My perception looking around my family and friends anyway.

I wondered what it was like for a girl growing up inbetween two brothers? Even just with 2 brothers really?
Did you feel left out? Did you miss a bit of girly time in the house? Did you not think about it but wish you had a sister now in adulthood? What is your relationship with your brothers like now?

Would be great to get an idea of what it was like and maybe I can either stop worrying about her - or try for number 4 !

I'm the middle child between 2 brothers - one 2 years older, one 7 years younger. Growing up I always wanted a sister but actually I think it made me very close to my mum. I certainly didn't feel left out - if anything it made me more sociable as I had to go out and find girl friends! I also managed to develop a clothing and shoe obsession all by myself. I've always had a lot of male friends though and naturally seem to get on better with males than females.

I have a good relationship with my brothers now but we're not particularly close - definitely there for each other in a crisis but don't speak regularly. Not bothered now I'm grown up about my lack of a sister - I don't feel that I missed out at all really.

I am in the middle too. Brothers are 20m older and 3y younger. LOTS of rough and tumble growing up, I tended to be peacemaker. I didn't enjoy being a middle child but that was my parents issue because hey always gave more trust/responsibility to my elder brother and let my younger brother get away with murder.

I honestly never felt the lack of a sister though. I had plenty of friends to do girly stuff with, and I guess I'm not that girly at heart anyway. Now as a grown up I have a good close relationship with younger DB but don't see the older one more than once every few years. No bad feeling we're just not close. Would I have liked a sister now? Never really thought about it. I am NC with my mother, for very good reasons, so yes, when I had a baby it would have been nice to have a close female relative to go to for advice, but we may not have got on, or she may have lived in a different country... I've made great friends who have been my support instead, and my SIL is lovely.

IMO there's no guarantee that girls would be girly or be friends. Sibling relationships are a fair bit of luck. Just take her out to do girly stuff on your own if you can - hairdressers, nails, shopping, cafe for cake. Far more important to make her feel individually special than provide a sibling who she may not like and Sod's law would prob be a boy!

I am also the middle with brothers either side. Loved it. No clothes sharing, no room sharing when we lived in a house that didn't allow seperate bedroom.

I also have 2 ds's and 1 dd. She loves it too.

you sound like a lovely mum and your little girl will be fine not having a sister. i have 2 brothers, older and younger and the only reason it was a nightmare was because my mum preferred boys! didn't miss girlyness - actually really enjoyed having my own girly stuff and being able to dip into the boys stuff. i always felt sad for girls who didn't have brothers.
i never wished i had a sister and i still don't. my brothers are fab.
also - i know sons that are really close to their mums and men are just as good at keeping the family together as women are so i don't think you need worry about that.

I have 3 brothers, one older and 2 younger. When the youngest was born I remember having a complete tantrum that my mother had yet another boy . I always said I wanted a sister, but deep down I think I really do like being the only daughter...

I was a tomboy, still am really as most of my good friends are male, I work in a very male orientated industry, and as it turns out when I was at school I was one of only 2 girls in my class (long story, was boys school then girls were allowed in I was one of the first gals...).

I think that its made me much closer to my mum, she is the one that I shared clothes with etc and go to for "sisterly" chats.

I am close to all 3 brothers, as our mum is in another country its me they come to for 'mum stuff'... my dh works away a lot so I call on them if I need help and they will drop everything to help me too.

Friends of mine always say im lucky not to have had sisterly fights and squabbles growing up - as kids we had rough and tumble (I gave and received ) but I wouldn't change it for the world....

I have 3 brothers, 2 older and one younger. My home was a boisterous place(!), but particularly my older brothers were very nice and often found a bit of time to play with me.

I happened to be quite 'girly' anyway, had lots of little girl friends who probably inspired that, and I rarely wished for a sister. Not more than fleetingly anyway!

My brothers and I all get on well in adulthood. Your little girl will be fine, she'll have lots of girl friends at school, and will probably learn to stick up for herself pretty well too (I certainly did)!

dreadlock what an interesting position to be in. You growing up with two brothers then having the same scenario again in your own family.

I grew up with one older brother, 5.5 years older and have no memory of us EVER playing together. He just hated me!!

My mum grew up with 4 older brothers . She is quite a closed person. Never been remotely affectionate and I find her very difficult at times.
She didn't seem to mind being the only girl but I think she just likes her own space. Whether this is a product of 4 older brothers, who knows.

I think maybe that's why id love to have a sister now. Not that I go around thinking about it that often! Just at times I feel a bit lonely family wise. No support. I have lovely friends who offer help but im rubbish at accepting help from friends. Im always 'fine'!

A few mentioned about me being there for her, painting nails, going for girly days out but unlike our mothers, im a good 10 years older than my mother when she had me (as most people are now). I can't see my 16 yr old DD wanting to go for a girly day with her 49 yr old mother - eek!

I think im just maudlin just now as we just lost my father in law to cancer. It makes you think. My DH has 3 older sisters and they have been amazing. All practically living with my mother in law at the moment. DH has been great too but obviously isn't moving back with his mother as he works long hours.
I see how the girls have each other and they are keeping it all together for everyone.

It has made me think about my DD and only having old parents and 2 brothers!

Yes, I could have another boy, then she'd be really pissed off with me!

I had OP's family layout, sure enough, number 4 was a boy.
DD is feisty, though.
My mother had 3 older brothers & she's quite feisty.
I'm sensing a pattern, here...

Dunno, one of my aunts had an affair with another aunt's husband. Sisters aren't always great.

The oldest of 7 with 2 sisters and 4 brothers. I was born then 3 of my brothers were after wards. I cried so much when the third came out a boy

I prefer been around males. I always have done. I'm more of a bloke then my brothers

I was 11 when I finally got a sister and she just annoyed me.

I'm a middle child 1 brother 3 years older 1 3 years younger. Grew up really close to both brothers. Not as close now as we once were. Never really thought about having a sister. I think being a middle child enforces becoming more of a loner. The eldest always a shining star and the youngest the baby. Being the middle child I dont think I was ever really bothered by the lesser attention. I'm more of the roll with it kind. I love both of my brothers dearly and wish we were closer. I often times feel as though I have no one to turn to in difficult times. Things change from childhood to adulthood. There are times now when I wish I had a sister someone that I could relate more too. I have only 2 children 1 girl and 1 boy. It made for total balance.

I grew up the youngest, with two older brothers who absolutely adore the bones of me but I always wanted a sister.

Hey! I'm a girl between two brothers. One is 3 years older than me and the other is 2 years younger. I actually really enjoyed my experience as the only female. Sure, at times I wished I had a sister, but that's only because maybe at school the other girls watched different TV shows than me (as the majority would choose what to watch, it'd mist be Power Rangers or something haha). However, it actually taught me a lot about men.
Now, it's definitely an advantage. Being female, I know what that's like and yet being that I spent a lot of time with my brothers and most of my friends are male, it's helped me understand how the psychological and neural difference between men and women means different types of communication with each. I was lucky to be accepted as a bro by men and as a girl by women, I was the confidant of both and was always the one people went to for relationship advice and other things.
It definitely helped to give me a better psychological understanding as a kid even though I wasn't aware of it.
I'm extremely close with my brother's even now and a lot of men say they find it easy to talk to me.
Let's not forget men tend to hide their emotions, especially from other men, amd the suicidal rate for men is significantly higher however, I've become the confidant of many men and helped them out a lot.
Even men that were borderlining with being sexist, I managed to change their view of women (not by being different than other women and talking down on them, in case you thought so) but by knowing how to communicate with men properly and showing them maybe their sexism stems from other issues from their life and guiding them on how to solve it.
Either way, don't be worried about your girl, for me it was an amazing advantage and definitely helped me massively to pursue a career in psychology as I had a broader understanding of the sexes and so I had more to compare to and know what issues are specifically influenced by sex and which are with other factors.
I learnt to be resilient, to be strong, I learnt to rough play which was definitely very beneficial to me as it served as a release (which is also psychologically proven to be beneficial). I learnt to not discriminate between men and women and to treat them all as equals (yet ofc there are differences in behaviour and in styles of learning and communication) because if we don't then people suppress sides of them which can always lead to trouble.

I'm the middle with 2 brothers. I've always been very close to both and we have remained that way in adulthood. They have also remained close with my parents and are probably more likely to be found taking my Mum to a garden centre or for tea and cake than I am! I never longed for a sister and have friends who aren't close to their sisters at all. My brothers are both sensitive and kind and we have plenty of shared interests. I also now benefit from 2 lovely sister-in-laws!