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Copycat mum- what to make of it

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mummy2lola · 08/09/2013 20:33

Hi there,
Just wondered what people made of this and if anybody has any useful advice.

I have a friend who's daughter is 2 months you younger than my dd ( my dd is 10 months) and right from the start she's been very competitive. In the last ten months I've had 3 prams because I do a lot of walking, but I'm quite small so I've been looking for a light one for me to lift. Every pram I've ever had, she's brought one. Right down to pram liners, toys hanging from the pram, she's brought these too. Literally, everything I buy for my dd ( right down to her weaning spoons) is the same.
When my dd was born she had reflux and had to be prescribed medicine & SMS stay down milk, & she even went to the drs for her own daughter saying she had reflux ( when she didn't) to have the same formula as me . She used to be somebody who I thought of as a friend, but it's getting me down a bit, as she often turns up at my house unannounced & seems more interested in nosing around & saying ' I might get my dd that, I might have my kitchen like that, I might get a new car (as I got one) and I feel it's a shame because its affecting friendship.
At first I felt flattered a bit, but now its annoying- I love the dds playing together, which is why I keep the friendship, but I hate how competitive she's got- how do I deal with this? This friend is buying everything I have & doesn't care how much money she spends to get the same. It's all getting a bit odd!!!! Advice appreciated....

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3MenAndMe · 08/09/2013 21:28

I would be annoyed as well!!!
She sound really childish and insecure imo.
Next time she asks where the stuff is from tell it was a gift or from E-bay/charity shop/sale/one off....

sharond101 · 08/09/2013 21:53

It sounds like she is not so well.She sounds very insecure and looks to you as a role model of someone who she aspires too. It's infuriating for you I imagine but she cannot help herself. I know someone in similar situation. I have no words of wisdom though except maybe pay her some compliments on things she has or does which are different to yours to help build her confidence.

toolatetobed · 08/09/2013 23:40

Sorry, I have no experience of this, so would be wary of giving advice, but you have asked what people make of this and my immediate reaction is that someone who is copying as obsessively as you describe has mental health issues. The post also made me wonder whether this woman has a partner/supportive family or whether she is trying to cope all on her own and feeling out of her depth.

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quickchat · 10/09/2013 10:32

OMG she is Cathy Bates! Total fruit cake IMO and id try to slowly get her out of your life.

This is very unhealthy behavior and you need to keep her at arms length - shudder.

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