You show me yours .....

[wierdywoman]

and I'll show you mine.

My friend caught my ds aged 6 and her dd aged 4 playing this today. She didn't make a big deal and just told them to go downstairs.

I know it is a normal part of growing up, but I feel totally wierd about the whole thing. I felt like crying. I don't feel rational about it at all and I think it is because I was sexually abused as a child.

Chatting with my friend, I realised that I probably am much more prudish with my children than most people are and I don't know how to feel about it.

Don't really know what I'm asking but I feel horrible about it all and I don't know what to do. Should I say anythign to my ds?

I wouldn't say anything to your DS. If you're concerned, and your DH/DP has a more relaxed attitude, maybe ask him to talk to your DS about it, casually?

(Have you had therapy re: your sexual abuse? Is it an option?)

It's good that you realise you're finding this hard, and that you understand why.

Thanks for replying NQC.

I'm a single parent and asking ex p to speak to ds isn't an option. I told him tonight that some things are private and if anyone asks him again, to tell them that it is private.

I haven't had counselling as such, although I have spoken to my doctor about it before. To be honest I don't find it affects me that much. It is just when something like this happens, that I realise that I don't have a very relaxed attitude and I'm very paranoid. :( Maybe it is something I should consider though.

It sounds like you're dealing with it well, considering. But it's probably a good idea to consider therapy, as I expect, as your DS gets bigger, this sort of issue (sexuality in general) will come up more.

this has some good ideas re talking to kids

IMO, virtually all kids will do something like this at some point. I think it's part of growing up. However, if your past is affecting your present, it may well be time to seek outside help.

plug - did you used to be someone else?

wierdywoman Please Do Not be worried at all by your ds & your friends dd.

Also had V.similar experience as you when I was
growing up but now as an adult I (finally) realise that sex is an adult 'thing' to do, & when kida mess around with one another they have NO idea of the concept.

I have had therapy, Lots, & now realise sex is
not dirty, sorrid, painfull & nasty. Its' a
lovely & wonderfull experience between a man &
woman who Love one another.

Stay chilled, Nowt to worry about

Yes, but no-one important .

What's your take on this, jools?

everyone is important, especially plugs - where would we be without plugs, water disappearing down drains, no electricity ...

come on who woz yer?