Providing snack for child who doesnt like cakes or biscuits

[peppajay]

I was wondering what others would do in my situation? My son doesn't like cakes or biscuits. He will eat plain biscuits like Rich teas or digestives but anything fancy he doesn't like. Birthday parties are usually ok coz he will eat the sandwiches and sausages and crisps but won't touch the sweet stuff but he doesn't mind as there is always savoury as an alternative. Howevever if we are going somewhere where biscuits and cakes is the only option such as refreshments after church I always take a cereal bar or some fruit for him as he doesn't like not being able to eat anything when everyone else is. However today I caused a real problem because I gave him a banana and a pack of raisins and two of the other kids kicked off because they wanted a box of raisins. Apparently I shouldn't give in to his whims and it is tough if he doesn't like what is on offer he should go without as it makes it awkward for others if I give him what he wants. He does have sensory isssues and is currently being tested for aspergers and finds it really hard to understand concepts of life like 'why do they not provide bananas or raisins like a toddler group? and at a party why do people presume he will like a fruit shoot when he drinks water!! One of the mums asked me today if I could refrain from taking his own snack for him as it makes it awkward for her kids!! I don't see it as giving in I just see it as stopping him feel left out!

You are feeding your child healthy snacks and people are complaining?

Ignore. If they comment just smile and explain that you are not responsible for their children, it is up to them to not "give in" to their DC kicking up a fuss over something they don't have.

I second sod the other parents! It's up to them to decide what's suitable for their children and provide for them.

Your child shouldn't be going hungry and thirsty so another child doesn't kick off.

I hope you get a resolution soon, but a child not liking sweet things does have its silver lining.

I think the other Mum is being unreasonable and I would continue to take a snack for my DS. My DS loves rich teas and raisins too and I carry around a small round tupperware tub with a supply of both in for emergency situations. Maybe out of the small cardboard boxes the raisins would look less appealing to the other children not that should be your concern!

WTF. Im sorry but this just sums up the lack of nutritional education in this country.

Im sorry OP but the whole post is confusing to me.

Of course kids should be eating fruit and drinking water.
Fruit shoots and biscuits and cakes are full of CRAP. Fruit shoots are chemicals, not thirst quenchers. Most crappy snacks aimed at kids are destroying their health and setting them up for a life full of bad eating habits, cancer, heart issues and many many cronic diseases.

They don't eat crap from toddlers then suddenly get a craving for vegetables, fish and fruit at 19 for god sake.

By then you have wrecked their bloody health anyway so they may as well kick back with a fruit shoot and wait for their first health issue
arggghhhhhh. and breathe

Sorry, im not actually angry with you OP!! Just read back my post.
If id been at the place where the brain dead mums told you not to give into his whims I may have got violent!

Just ignore, do people really comment about what you give your child ? I can't believe people are so rude.

I'm puzzled as to why your kids snacks are anyone else's business tbh. I'd just assume he didn't like of was allergic. It would've even cross my mind to blame someone else for my kids kicking off over food. Just as easily be in the bus having to deal with someone eating a kit Kat and wanting one.

She sounds deranged

Wouldn't