Teenagers!

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I have 14 year old teenage daughters and I find myself not liking them a lot recently and it is upsetting me as they were always so close to me.... Now they seem like completely different girls who I am nagging at on a daily basis. I'm sick of hearing my voice repeating stuff day after day. On the whole, they are good girls and I feel I want to

Cut them some slack but on the other hand I worry about so many parts of their lives from boys, school work, varying their activities to time spent on gadgets, phones etc.

I have just come out of the teen years with one and still hanging in there with the other. I found mine absolutely horrible at times and frequently felt I would have been happier without them. I think they know how to push your buttons to see how far they can go before you snap. The happy children they appear to be at 11 suddenly gives way to snarling, difficult teens. I never had big worries over schoolwork but they both had periods of difficulty at school, for completely different reasons, and both were happy for me to help at these times. Fortunately DD1 had lots of friends but DD2 makes the wrong ones and finds out the hard way that she has made a mistake. At 14 the amount of time they spent on the phone was limited and they never had many gadgets although DD1 still works with music on. We tried to step in if we saw things were going wrong but they do not thank you for it because they know everything. Both can still be rude but only very occasionally and DD1 will still argue black is white. DD 2 just passed driving test and is on the road. That's a big worry too. I think sometimes they have to make some mistakes and they have to go with the crowd, even if you do not much like what the crowd is doing. Eg. If you want them back at 9 and other parents say 10 they will want 10, not 9 to please you. That's another issue - feeling that they no longer want to please you, it is all about them. DD2 can look much older than she is, has a figure that attracts many boys, and often looks stunning. She is constantly being asked out. She has said to me that boys only want one thing and she won't go out with them. I naively thought she could get a boy who could wait a bit, but apparently none of them will. I therefore would worry about boys if your DDs might waver and say yes. They do love you really of course. They just don't know how to show it right now, but they will improve with your sensible guidance .

13 year old daughter who is a monster when asked a question she will refuse to answer when warned that if she keeps not answering this simple question she still refuses to answer she ends up being punished and grizzles everywhere i too am sick of the sound of my own voice we sent her to her great nans today because by mid morning she was driving us crackers being disruptive when asked to hang out the washing so we can get out faster (the baby refused to let me put him down without screaming) she badly pegs everything she messed everything up i showed her again how to peg out washing she screws it all into balls and shoves a peg on it finally my oh goes out and re does the lot it would have been faster if i had put the baby in the sling did it with one hand tied behind my back and was on crutches needless to say we were a spectacular 1 1/2 hours late to our friends house lucky they are nice x