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What can I tell a 5 year old who doesn't want to go to holiday club tomorrow?

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BornToFolk · 01/09/2013 18:32

DS (5) has had a few sessions at a holiday club over the holidays. He went on Friday and was crying when I picked him up. There didn't seem to be anything in particular that upset him, he just didn't want to be there.

It's his last session tomorrow and we've had tears about it this evening. He really doesn't want to go. He's saying that he doesn't know anyone (not strictly true, there's a boy from his football club that goes, and he's made a friend there too) and that no one will play with him. Sad

Apart from that, it's complaints about the food being too hot Hmm, the toys being boring and he just doesn't want to goooooo!

I've tried reminding him that it's only one more session tomorrow, then he's got the rest of the week with me/my mum and we've got some fun things planned. I've given him some strategies for making friends, reminding him that he didn't know anyone when he started school and now he's got friends there. We've also had a chat about positive thinking and how if he tells himself he's going to have a good time, then he probably will and vice versa.

It's not working though, he's still miserable about it and I really feel for him. I used to hate going to those kind of things when I was a kid, though I haven't let on to him. I have no concerns about the holiday club in general by the way, they've done some really fun things with the kids that even DS admits he's enjoyed and the staff all seem very nice.

Any other strategies I can use?

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Chocotrekkie · 01/09/2013 18:34

I bribe - chocolate in lunch boxes, McDonald's for tea whatever.
Note - I am a terrible mum !!

missmapp · 01/09/2013 18:35

Well , he just needs to go really!! This isn't meant nastily ( I work full time) but if he has to go, he has to go.

As it is the last session, I would just send him in and have a nice treat when you pick him up.

BornToFolk · 01/09/2013 18:36

Grin Choco, when he was whinging about the food there I did tell him that he could choose whatever we have for tea...no good! Maybe I need to up the ante and suggest Nando's (his fave) for lunch on Tues...

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PoppyWearer · 01/09/2013 18:39

Can I lurk? I am a SAHM but have my 5yo booked into a club tomorrow so I can finish the back-to-school preparations and pop to the shops in peace, without all the whining. I have loads of stupid little bits and pieces to do and she will whinge the whole way round. Much much easier if I go alone, and it will take me half the time.

But DC1 doesn't want to go to the club tomorrow! Aargh!

difficultpickle · 01/09/2013 18:47

Bribe, high enough to make him feel okay about going. It is hard if you have no choice and they have to go. It is easier if they know you aren't at home though. Ds is back to school on Wednesday and is really cross that I have the day off. He is going back Tuesday evening because he has so much gear to take. Now he knows that I'm at home he wants to go back on Wednesday. What he doesn't know is I've got the day off to take his grandma (my mum) to see a consultant about a serious medical problem.

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