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why is it I love parenting sometimes and hate it the next?

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superstarheartbreaker · 31/08/2013 22:28

I just want to love it all the time in the same way that I love my dd alk the time? Is it natural to hate it sometimes but love it the next or am I a wiedfo? Likewise I alternate between longing for another baby and thinking no way. I still dont think ive got used to being mum.....even though it amazes and overwhelmes me.

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grants1000 · 01/09/2013 14:30

Totally natural 100% Defo not a wierdo

I think in life you can't be happy all the time, or sad, of angry, it's the ebb and flow of life that is made up of emotion.

I have two DS's 4 years apart and I was so worried that I would not love DS2 as much as DS1, but this whole seam of love deep down inside, that you never knew you had, opens up when you have another child. Like a seam of diamonds that miners only find when they hit upon it. Boom, more love than you ever thought capapbale of, is there. I have the same strength of love for each child. They are now 6 & 10 and I have days when I feel like the best parent in the world and how bloody fantastic I am this parenting business! I also have days when I am bloody terrible at it, days when I've done a sht job, they've cried, it's all gone pear shaped and the end of the day could not come soon enough! But I have learnt not to beat myself up about the bad days, life happens, move on and go forth!

lola88 · 01/09/2013 21:52

I'm like that yesterday DS got my expensive moisturizer I got for my birthday and ate it! I was so annoyed but then he gives me this big grin and said num num and I just had to laugh at the little weirdo :)

mummyxtwo · 02/09/2013 07:57

Yes very normal. I love my dc's more than life itself, they are my sun, moon and stars. I equally have days where I am just desperate to have a break without constantly being called upon to play games, put on voices, attend to the baby, deal with this that and the other. And sleep. I am desperate for sleep. Sometimes I am impatient and lose my temper and feel like the worst mum in the world, and other days I don't do so badly. It'll get easier!

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purrpurr · 02/09/2013 07:59

Lola

I am finding being a mum to a 4 month old so much easier ever since I allowed myself to have bad days. It can't be wonderful all the time. If it was, would you even notice how wonderful it was after a while?

rrreow · 02/09/2013 14:04

I think I always love being a parent in theory, but in practice I sometimes really hate it. Usually to do with lack of sleep or constant demands. You're only human, it's definitely normal!

gourd · 02/09/2013 15:23

Normal. Hate feeling shattered all the time. Hate not being able to do occasionally some of the things I used to do, but do love DD immensely and think I'd have been very sad if I couldn't have had her.

mummycat0 · 02/09/2013 16:27

I definitely feel the same, dd just takes it out of me. I love her very much and we have those moments where we both laugh and cuddle and I feel like the happiest person in the world! Then a week of not sleeping sends me over the edge and I sit there sulking wishing I could be out there doing 'grownup' stuff.

MJP1 · 02/09/2013 20:48

Could have written this post myself, my 28 week old has been a monster all day/ we're going through teething hell again. Was glad to put her to bed but have just been upstairs to look at her and seeing her so gorgeous all snuggled and peaceful all is forgiven and my heart melts.

FoxyRevenger · 02/09/2013 20:52

Normal!!

They are so beautiful, little ones, and funny and endearing and you can't stop watching them.

But playing with them is fucking boring. And so is changing nappies. Endless loads of washing. Bath time.

It just is what it is; every single day there are moments where I am so happy I could cry, then there are moments of unutterable boredom.

DorisShutt · 02/09/2013 20:57

Coz you're me?

I can sometimes have a whole day at home with DS and it's fabulous - but then I'll have him for 2 hours after nursery and he can press all my buttons at once!

Children - can't live with 'em, can't send them up the chimneys!

DISCLAIMER for the hard of thinking : I'm joking!

Thurlow · 02/09/2013 21:07

Completely normal! I miss DD so much when I'm not with her, but then when I am with her... sometimes the thought of it is better than the reality

But the reality is often dull, repetitive, and unchallenging. Pretending that putting small wooden figures into a bag and then taking them out again for an hour is 'fun' is pretty bloody hard some days.

19m in I am still struggling with the fact that small people just won't do what you want when you want them to do it. Sounds such an obvious thing, but it's my biggest challenge.

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