Help me come up with a daily routine for 3yr old and 9 month old

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Before I lose my mind!

DS1 goes to nursery Tuesday Wednesday and Thursday mornings until 1pm. He eats there but at 11 so is

Bloody phone! Is hungry at pickup time.

DS2 is breastfed and weaning normally but still wants the boob 4 or 5 times a day for a quick snack. DS2 co-sleeps with me and breastfeeds around 1am and 5am.

Both boys wake up between 7 and 7.30. DS1 goes to bed around 7.30pm and has dropped his daytime nap. DS2 goes to sleep anytime between 7 and 10 depending on how much he's napped in the day.

I needs structure and I'm too tired and foggy headed to plan it out, help please!

What time does DS1 start nursery? How long does the school run take in total? Do you go by car or walking? Will the baby sleep in your chosen mode of transport and then transfer easily?

Here is what I do, bearing in mind that DS2 is FF... Timings vary a bit depending on play dates etc.
7 am both kids up. DH gives baby bottle and cereal.
730 I get up and do breakfast for DS1. Then I showery self and get us all dressed.
835 in car to nursery
920 back home. DS2 nap
1030 DS2 up
11.15 DS2 solids
1140 leave to collect DS1
1215 home. DS2 nap, DS1 and me lunch
1pm DS1 nap. I watch TV/ nap
230 DS1 up
245 DS2 up and bottle.
515 feed both kids
615bath DS2 (DS1 watches TV or plays)
630 bottle DS2, in bed 645
645 DS1 bath
700 ish DS2 tidies toys, watches TV, has story
8pm DS1 bed.

I would structure your ds2's day so he has naps at the same time each day. So a morning one on the nursery run then one after lunch. So he goes to bed at the same time as your eldest or thereabouts if possible.
What time does ds2 eat lunch on a nursery day? Does your nursery do lunch cover? Can you give ds1 a snack to keep him going until lunch at home?

Hi, thanks for your ideas.

DS1 goes to nursery on Tuesday Wednesday and Thursday from 9am until 1pm and has lunch there at 11.30. He has breakfast at home around 8am. I usually drive him there and it's less than 10 minutes each way.

Baby sleeps anywhere but wakes up when transferred and wants the boob to fall asleep if we are at home (I need to break this habit!)

We are half an hour by bus from our local town which has great kids facilities and I take them there a few times a week in the double buggy (never convenient parking so I don't drive there)

DS2 is a bottle refuser so only I can feed him in the morning and DH is about to start new job with longer hours so a plan is becoming ever more essential.

I always split the day into 3

Morning activity
After lunch nap/ rest/ quiet time
Afternoon activity

So in you case this could be something like:

Morning- drop ds1 at nursery then errands, walk in park and coffee shop for you.

After lunch- 1pm pick up, home, feed ds2 ad ds1 something if hungry. Then by 2pm ds2 settle down for nap, ds1 settle down for quiet hour of sticker books/ normal books etc alone and you get a break too

Afternoon activity - either out with children ie park/ friends house or if home plan one thing ie baking/ painting etc then they play

On the non nusery days the same except ' morning activity' with eldest also

Btw I find the key part if heading home for lunch- afternoon nap/ quiet time. As gives everyone time to rest an hour or so. If you can eat baby to sleep, and ds1 used to ' quiet time' then he can sit one end of sofa with books and you the other and both under blanket if cold. He/ you might even nap if cosy. You can try introducing this gradually if not used to it so he 'reads' alone ( ie looks at pictures) for 10 mins then you read to him after for having great quiet time. Gradually upping the time he reads alone first.

It is really nice as as he gets older also he will be used to having energetic mornings and afternoons but knowing he has time where he isn't expected to go/ do anything. ( even as an adult I like naps if I can!)