when trying to become dry at night should I....

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put her on the loo for a wee after she has fallen asleep? We are trying with dd1 (3.5yo) to get her dry at night and I am not sure if I am doing it all right. I giver her nothing else to drink after 6pm and she is in bed by 7.30pm. Should I before I go to bed put her on the loo when she is half asleep or leave her? she sleeps so deeply that she doesn't always wake when she needs the loo in the night.

any advice greatly appreciated.

why not just wait until she does it herself? I did with DD1, and she was over 3. If you want to get into lifting at night it may be something you haev to do indefinitely which is a pain. Having tried it and still had wet beds, I think its much better to just leave them until they are dry every night without extra training. DD is still young yet.

If you are going to do this I would advise you to wake her up a bit so she is aware of what is happening. If you leave her asleep while she is weeing you are then teaching her to do a wee in her sleep which is what you are trying to prevent.

Just started ds night time nappy free as he has been insisting for a while. He is 2.8yrs and will admit the first night I lifted him out to go to the toilet but he screamed as he was soo tired and refused to do anything. Ds has a drink of milk to go to bed with but have cut it down to half the amount. I also insist he has a wee before he goes to bed. So far 4 nights in and he has been wet on the 2nd night but thats it and even that one was because he was waking up and just let himself wee as he thought he had nappy on.

well out of the last 6 nights we have had as follows:

nights 1 & 2 - dry
nights 3,4 and 5 - wet
night 6 - dry

haven't lifted her off yet - have just left it to see how she goes.

DS is now nearly 5!!! and still v.wet at night every night. Have tried no drinks from 5pm on and waking him up when I go to bed so he can do a wee but still wet. Thought of putting in washable nappies but don't know a good make for his size (21kg).
PLEASE help am getting fed up with bins of nappies.....

ecj, my DS1 is nearly 7 and has only recently become dry at night - about three months ago. The advice of lots of mumsnetters convinced me not to fret about it and above all not to put any pressure on him. I know the wet nappies are a pain, but honestly, not half as bad as having to stagger around at 4 a.m. changing a soaking wet boy and bed whilst trying desperately not to disturb your other kids!

ecj, my dd is 5 and definitely not ready to be dry at night. Apparently there is a hormone that kicks in to suppress urination overnight, and the age that happens varies - until it happens they are physically unable to be dry at night. So I'm not fretting about it - it will happen when she is ready and there's no point in getting uptight about it.

With regard to witholding drinks, the advice I was given was not to hold back drinks as the more liquid they can hold the better - it stretches the bladder meaning they can physically hold more liquid. The recommendation I had was to get dd to drink bucket loads during the day until after tea, then a small drink at supper time.

I have just got a couple of washable Motherease Bedwetter pants for dd - haven't had the nerve to try them yet, but they definitely do large enough sizes for your son - the medium ones fit 55 - 65lb.

DS1, who will be 8 in August, has only been dry at night since December (so 7.4). I was getting very worried and had been to the enuresis clinic and everything, but in the end it just happened when his body was ready.

dd is 4.5 and still in pull ups over night. I'm not worried. I prefer one wet nappy in the bin over having to change her and the bed in the middle of the night especially as she's in the top bunk .

My advise... don't fret. It'll happen

wow! thanks girls. I'll stop worrying and I'll try getting those Motherease bedwetter pants, they sound good and I can stop feeling guilty about putting nappies in the bin....
Thanks

Hi i am new here today and wondered if anyone has any tips for potty training at night my little man is 3 next month?

I used washables until he potty trained precisely so that I wouldn't feel too guilty about 1 pull up a night for however long it takes. All my doctor friends say the age that they start to be concerned about bed wetting is so late that you can end up under a paediatrician when for any other complaint you would go to a normal consultant.

My parents advocate lifting - but I've told them that they are only saying that because pull up weren't invented when I was a kid.

My Ds is 7 years old and 3 months and he is not always dry at night the only time he is dry is when we wake up at least twice to lift him he never gets up on his own and if we forget he wets, but after reading this thread I may change my ideas about trying to avoid dry nights at all costs and just leave it a bit longer see if it sorts itself like it is meant too and hearing other peoples ds's stop doing it around this age is reassuring.