Does anybody still wipe an 8 year old after using the loo?

[strokey]

Or is it just me? He doesn't poo at school, waits til he gets home. Says he doesn't want to get his hands dirty, Ive no idea where he gets the OCD tendencies from, Im a lazy slut when it comes to personal hygiene.

Why are all of these 8 year olds boys? Because no one would ever expect that level of helplessness from a girl, that's why. (barring obviousl SN/health issues obv)

I do help my DS (9). But he has bowel issues and suspected ASD and the fact he still needs assistance is one of the things that qualifies him for DLA!

Ethelb - I have 2 boys. As I said up thread I haven't wiped their backsides since they were 3.

Have nothing to add to the OP problem and haven't Advanced Searched but the only thread I remember Strokey commenting was the Barckays complaint and she made me laugh.

(Hope I have the right person)

I apologise too and I've reported my post for deletion.

My elder dc are 4&5 and wipe theirselves

Has he tried using toilet wipes? My boys use these and seem to do a good job

@tippi of course there are some parents who react normally to the arrival of a male child. But then there are those who behave very very oddly, in a way that you never hear of happening to the parents of female children.

Like wiping a healthy, 8-year-old boy's bum. He's only three years off secondary school ffs.

Why do the parents of girls get their brains transplanted after childbirth so less frequently? It is so, so odd.

@ethelb - point taken

My dd is 7yo and would be horrified if I went anywhere near her bum

She does sometimes use wet wipes when at home though, would that help? Also I would tell him he has to wipe first and then you will check he is clean and encourage hand washing etc if germs concern him. Is he normally overly anxious?

Er, no. NOT A CHANCE. I haven't wiped a bum since ds2 was about 4, and only then because he was very small for his age and couldn't reach.

I have a 7yo cousin who was wiping himself until his sister was born aged 4 and then decided he couldn't do it himself and will shout for someone to do it. His mum and dad didn't want to push it but it's obviously 3 years now and ignoring isn't working. I have refused when we were the only ones there and he did do it himself though. I know that's a different situation but he's a similar age to yours.

DS1 is 6 in October and is of the very happy to have everything done for him camp.

However, I stopped wiping him just before he started school, so when he was 4. He isn't massively clean all the time, but I've come to accept the odd skid mark. He has got better at this actually since I very explicitly told him to wipe until no more poo was coming off onto the tissue. I think that gave him something definitive to prompt him to finish, If that makes sense.

Good advice miemohrs

ethelb he does use a prescribed anti-bac bath stuff, it was hard to get for a while & think that led to the last outbreak.

I'll get some toilet wipes & see if that helps.

He also doesn't go at school, but I don't blame him, I've seen the toilets.

My 6 year old DS sometimes asks me for help. He eats a LOT of fruit, with a rather predictable effect on his bowels. He gets a bit worried about cleanliness and once in a while he'll shout me to just check he's got everything.

In the interests of encouraging independence I think you should work on this with him - maybe toilet wipes to start with?

I really don't get why some mumsnetters get so het up about this issue though. I've commented on one of these kinds of threads before and was absolutely flamed to death for still wiping my then 4 year old. Really, really odd. Yes, kids should be encouraged to be independent but the absolute frothing hysteria about bum wiping is far wierder than an 8 year old getting his mum to wipe his arse if you ask me.

My DS1 is just 6 and I stopped wiping for him just a few weeks ago. I know most kids do it on their own earlier apparently but DS1 had massive issues regarding his bowels and would hold poo in for ages. (He went 18 days without a poo once ) He ended up on medication for it which made his poo very soft and messy. He's got no issues now but still won't poo at school!

And lo and behold. All the children needing help are male. What did I say?

No I don't. But judging from his pants I probably should.