3 kids 2 dads

[Helentres]

Anyone else get THAT look when people realise your children don't all have the same father?

DS1 is 7 and from my first serious relationship. However, this relationship didnt work out despite great efforts from both sides. I suppose we just werent a match.

DS2 and DS3 were from my 2nd serious relationship which lasted 6 years (ended due to xp being violent )

When people realise this, plus the fact I'm single, and also only 26, I get all kinds of looks and sometimes treated differently than before they knew.

Are some people really that judgemental?

I'm proud of my children and our achievements as a family and don't think it should matter whether they have the same dad, different dads, whether I'm a single parent etc etc

What are everyone else's thoughts on this and do you find you've had similar treatment?

Unfortunately people CAN be that judgmental but the problem is theirs, not yours, and all you can do is ignore them. They're not worth your time.

One of my dearest friends has 4 children by 4 different men. Do people judge? Oh yes! What they don't know is that number 1 was born to her husband who then beat her up and caused her to run away with just the baby and the clothes she stood up in, number 2 was the result of her 2nd, by then estranged husband raping her, and the following 2 children born to men who subsequently walked out on my lovely, kind, sweet friend.

What they also don't know because they don't bother to get to know her is that she's a wonderful, loving mother who idolises each and every one of her children and that the children are incredibly close and protective of each other and all regard each other as natural born brothers and sisters.

My friend is remarkable. She is the parent who STAYED, just like you. Remember that and be proud.

It's so sad when people immediately judge before they know the full story . Maybe if they spent a little time to get to know people first...

I tend to just walk away most of the time. I don't see why I should have to defend or explain myself.

Oh yes. I'm expecting baby number 5 to dad number 4 and what's worse is that two of those dads are foreign

I know two 8 by 5s. You're all little league.

Shit happens. As long as your children are loved, who cares. I wouldn't offer the info though. It's nobody's business but yours, and people will unfairly judge.

Xps mum has 9 by 8. She's quite vocal though so anyone who dares give her a funny look i imagine would soon know what she's thinking.

I just don't think it's fair that youre immediately judged. And what's worse, is that its normally women who look down their noses

I often get people saying how much all 3 of my children look alike (although they all look like their fathers). I often find myself just agreeing and changing the subject coz I can't be bothered with THAT look when I tell them. But then I get annoyed with myself and ask myself what have I got to be ashamed of?

My boys are healthy, happy, loved and have everything they need. I personally think that's all that matters

2 dads is perfectly acceptable. I do make assumptions about 4x4s. I think most people do!

"2 dads is perfectly acceptable. I do make assumptions about 4x4s. I think most people do!"

I'm very glad I don't mix in your circles, strokey.