My almost 7 year old is wallowing in misery and anger - what to do?

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My DD is wallowing in misery. Everything is doom and gloom - unless she is getting exactly what she wants.

I wrote a long post detailing the last 24 hours but what it came down to is she is happy when getting what she wants but is miserable or snappy in an instant.

Last summer was miserable. Her misery spoiled our fortnight's foreign holiday to such an extent that we have not done the same this year, instead opting for 2 shorter UK holidays. She misses her school friends but I've tried to meet up with a few. She has enjoyed a holiday club (6 sessions) but obviously I'm not there to see it. Every evening she seems to come down many times and I'm thinking I actually need some time without the misery/demanding/whining.

However, I am the adult here and I need to help her to cheer up for everyone's sake. What can I do?

Ask her at bedtime what the best thing she did that day and if anything upset her. This could help you understand how she thinks, but you can also focus on the good things

You could also sit down in the morning and help her plan her day, she doesn't need to get to do everything she wants,but at least she knows what is going to happen. Do try and let her choose something that will happen, even if its just what veg you are having that day. If you have time try and do an activity with her everyday like play a boardgames, my DC love Connect 4, or swing all or just go for a walk and talk to each other.

I think I do these things. I ask what the best thing was, I check that everything is OK. We have been shopping for her today, made something and played a game. She is in her room now. I told her to stop speaking to like I was something on her shoe. She smirked at me.