Am I ridiculous?

[Jammee]

Sorry if this is the wrong place for this but:
DH, DD and I have been invited to a wedding next month. The couple want children and babies (my DD is 7m/o) to be looked after by friends of the family is a sort of private pop-up creche during the ceremony (which I completely understand).

However, my DD has never been away from DH or I. I have only left her on her own with DH once and that was last week for three hours, so she is not used to being away from me and has never been away from both of us at the same time. No one has ever baby sat, fed her or even changed a nappy and she is clingy and I am neurotic, too.

I'm not keen on the idea of people I don't know looking after her, even if it's only for a short while. I don't want to impose on the couple as it's their day, so I can't help feeling that hubby should go alone or I should only go for the second half so that I can keep DD with me. Hubby and groom are trying to reassure me and I feel like I'm being stupid and pathetic but I really hate the idea of leaving her with strangers, especially as it's not even a proper daycare place.

Am I pathetic?

No not at all. My dd2 is nearly 10mo and the only time I have left her with someone unknown was for 5 minutes as a trial run in Sunday school creche - and I was outside the door ready to go back in if she got hysterical. Which she did, after 5 minutes! If I was invited to a wedding with those arrangements, I would forego the ceremony part and play with dd2 outside while dh saw the ceremony, then just join in with all the socialising and everything afterwards. Tbh I would jump at the excuse to miss the wedding ceremony...!

They are being unreasonable.

She is your daughter and its up to you if you if you want to leave her or not. I wouldn't in your position.

Don't let them make you feel crazy. You are not.

Dd1 was 2yo before I left her. My baby, my choice.