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How do I sort this?

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Katymac · 15/06/2006 20:48

DD does
Piano 3:45 to 4:15 on Tuesday, then Brownies 6 to 7:30
Ballet 5:15 to 5:45 on Wednesday, then Youth Club 6 til 7
Gym 4:30 to 5:15 on Friday, then swimming 6 til 7

And Saturday is Ballroom 10:15 to 11:15

Now Ballroom want her to do another class on Tuesdays (medal class and more advanced)

How do I fit it in? Or do I say she can't do it? Or do I make her give something else up? Should I choose something to give up? or ask DD to choose?

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FrayedKnot · 15/06/2006 20:50

That's a ahrd one. It's fantasic she does all those things, but she must get really tired?

I would give her the choice - I would have thought 3 things on one night just too much.

Could you move her piano lesson to a different day?

FrayedKnot · 15/06/2006 20:51

hard and fantastic, sorry!

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Katymac · 15/06/2006 21:08

I think she does too much - but how to choose which to give up?

She is really good at gym & dancing
She is really good at piano

She loves Brownies and Youth club

But I do want to stop something (I think) It it too much for her & she is going to middle school in September

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elastamum · 15/06/2006 21:27

It all sounds a bit too much to me. when does she get to hang around being a kid. We have just gone through similar. When I asked my obviously overtired DS1 whether he wanted to carry on all the clubs he said no, so we canned about half what he used to do and kept karate and swimming and his cricket which he does with his dad. Life is much better. DS2 has resisted all invitations to join clubs and is as happy as larry doing not very much

warthog · 15/06/2006 21:32

well you've not said how much she likes ballroom... so how about chopping that? then she can spend the time saved on saturday practising her piano

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Katymac · 15/06/2006 21:34

She runs arround the garden everyspare minute (admittedly dancing and doing gym)

She also mucks arround on the piano most nights

She reads for at least half an hour a day

She has refused to give up anything - but I'm really unsure what to do for best if I force her to give something up....will I regret it? will she?

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threebob · 15/06/2006 21:34

I hang out on a music teacher's forum and they all seem to get really peed off when people try to change piano lessons to fit in their other activities. I'm not saying it's right but don't be surprised if you get a bad reaction if you try to change it.

Personally I think that one sport, one instrument and one club is enough at any age and any more than that should only be done if they just happen to fit in.

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Katymac · 15/06/2006 21:35

Sorry when I said dancing I ment both

She is constantly moving...a blurr

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warthog · 15/06/2006 21:59

i dunno threebob - used to be a music teacher myself and didn't have a problem with moving a lesson. these things happen. what was irritating was if it was moving to a different time every week.

personally if it were me, i'd try to move piano. i do think she'd regret it if she had to give one of them up. she sounds like a really talented kid! i think as she gets more advanced she'll find out which she enjoys the least / grows out of in her own time. as long as she's doing her school work and you're prepared to take her to all these things, why not?

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Katymac · 15/06/2006 22:04

It's hard to know what to do for best

The ballroom want her to do more, but I'm a bit wary of competitions (for some reason? I'm not sure why)

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Thomcat · 15/06/2006 22:08

how old is she?

What's gym 4.30 - 5.15?

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Katymac · 15/06/2006 22:10

She's 8 (9 in Nov)

Gymnastics....she is apparently "very good"

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notagrannyyet · 15/06/2006 22:13

Two activities in the evening after a full day at school is too much IMO.

Could she choose between ballet & gym, or brownies &youthclub?
Very difficult but if she was my daughter I would stick with piano & swimming and try and get her to choose between the others. You will find more after school things to fit in when she is older!They finish later too,so you will get less child free time!

Thomcat · 15/06/2006 22:15

Oh right, I visualised her on a tread mill!

Personally I'd say she can't do the Tues extra class. Not unless it devestates her and then I'd ask her if she would drop brownies for it ad take it from there.

Thomcat · 15/06/2006 22:16

Do they make them wear v grown up clothes and makeup in ballroom comps?

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Katymac · 15/06/2006 22:17

I think that's what I'm a bit uncertain of

I really wouldn't like makeup & revealing clothes

Oh I'm so old fashioned

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babaworshipper · 15/06/2006 22:22

It does sound like a lot. I had loads of after school activities which although I loved them it actually left me very little time for just hanging out with friends bit of a social drawback really. Holidays were an issue with folk in their established goups and me trying to latch on due to all activities stopped for hols.

Something to consider maybe?

Thomcat · 15/06/2006 22:27

I watched some ballroom x factor style thing with kids on this morning when I was off on maternity leave and it was awful. Scared me.

Children with make-up and silly grown-up clothes, all with the imprint of their mothers hand on their back. Very ick.

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Katymac · 15/06/2006 22:33

Thomcat - I think I would throw up

My DD's skin is perfect she is NOT wearing make up

And I'd like to see them try to style her hair

She does most of them with her bf - so hopefully the holidays won't be too much of a problem

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Thomcat · 15/06/2006 22:39

LOL! It was gross.
So have you decided what you're going to do?

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Katymac · 15/06/2006 22:42

Not a clue

I think say no to the class or try and move her piano (maybe to Monday to Thursday?)

If she was bad at one of them it would be easier (I'd give up Youth club in an instant - but she is moving school and her old friends will be at YC)

So frustrating

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Thomcat · 15/06/2006 22:45

Within a week of whatever you decide to do she'll forget how it used to be anyway!

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Katymac · 15/06/2006 22:46

night

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