13 month old hitting me and laughing

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Can anyone advise how to handle that please? I don't think she is doing it maliciously but she likes smacking people in the face, I think she thinks it's a game. She also hits out or pulls my hair really hard sometimes when I am trying to settle her to sleep.

I have been saying a firm "No" but she sometimes giggles and does it again (other times she cries) so then I hold her wrist so she cannot do it again and say "No" again.

Has anyone else's LO been through this stage, and have you got any tips on handling it please? I know she's just a baby but would like to nip this in the bud as it hurts!

Thanks!

i ouldnt bother with the firm no,i would just move her away from you or walk away and do something else,the firmno and grabbing is giving her attention for it.

Tbh my older 3 all did that at some point and i remember not really doing much at all about it and they stopped after a while,its just a phase they go through they arent being naughty.

Ah ok thanks, so more like ignoring the bad behavior than trying to admonish for it. I will try that. I don't think she understand she is being naughty. It's slightly tricky when she does it to the cat though!

My cats have learnt to hide from my youngest! im sure he will be nice to them when hes 3 or 4 lol.

We have 4 cats, one has never come near DD in 13 months, he is terrified poor thing.

Two sometimes risk coming in the living room etc but are wary.

The fourth one is a bit daft and chases DD and then lies there while she dives on top of him, pokes him, strokes him, hits him etc. We have managed to stop her pulling his fur and poking his bottom but his tail is her new thing she wants to explore. All the while, the cat tends to purr! He gets up and waits by the door or seeks refuge high up when he has had enough though (perhaps that's what I need to start doing when she hits me...)

Yes just ignore the behaviour I used to ignore dd for a minute or so afterwards to. Then explain when I picked her back up why I was unhappy after a few days most bad behaviour (hitting or biting) had usually stopped. She went through several phases of hitting and biting.

Oops posted a little soon.

Each time this stopped it within a few days.

i would agree that i dont think she understands she is being naughty but you need to teach her it is naughty and telling her no is the right thing to do.

Thanks will see how we get on.

My 15 month old has recently started scratching (only dp and myself yet thankfully). She looks at us to ensure she has our attention then does it and watches how we react.
I've held her and explained No, that hurts, it's not nice, we don't do that. Sometimes that works but other times she continues. If we move away from her/ignore her she sometimes just tries even harder, almost like it's a game.

I don't want her to start doing this at nursery so on the worst occasions I've taken her favourite teddy away for 1 minute and tried explaining to her why I've done that. It seems to have worked so far, I don't feel great about it but having seen other children biting/hitting etc at playgrounds I really want to try to make dd understand it's wrong.

At that age she has no concept that what she is doing is causing you pain, she cannot relate it back to herself. Giving attention to it by grabbing and saying no is a reaction and feeds the behaviour you don't want. You could try taking her hand and rubbing it gently on your face saying "nice to mama" or similar and smiling and showing her how you do want her to behave?

My daughter is 13 months old and when she is doing something like this, I can usually just do something else to ditract her and make her laugh. I have to say the other day though she accidently threw something and hit me in the face and I said "Ow!" and she laughed and said "Ow!" back and it made me burst out laughing. Cue the next few minutes her throwing things at my face and both of us bursting into laughter saying "Ow!". This is not my proudest parenting moment, but I thought it might make you smile.

A firm "No!" and using her full name, does work sometimes with my little girl. It does at least get her attention and lets her know I'm being serious. I know she doesn't always understand, but I do try to explain it to her,"Mommy doesn't want you to do that because it hurts her" then I do the sign for hurt and say "Ouch".

millionprammiles i actually laughed out loud at your post,just trying to imagine a 13 month old baby having a toy taken of them for 1 minute and a full explanation of behaviour hahaha

I say a firm no and walk away, withdrawing attention reinforces the message. DS still laughs sometimes as he's trying to make me laugh (that's why I walk away because I will laugh!)

I wonder what nursery staff do if a toddler scratches another child, hopefully they don't laugh or walk away! Would welcome posts from any nursery staff.

It does make me want to laugh sometimes (though I doubt other parents would find it funny if my dd was scratching their child).

Nursery staff usually remove the child away and distract them with something else. And of course make sure the other child is ok.