Hi Girls,
I'm new to Mumsnet and having a few parenting dilemmas I would like to run by you all, thanks :-)
My dd is 5 almost 6, she is very sensitive, on the quiet side. Anyway she has a friend X who is loud, confident, a complete extrovert.
There are another couple of girls where we live but X lives closest to our house so my dd always calls for her. X is very overpowering and bossy. I try to encourage dd to make friends with other girls too and call to them sometimes but she won't. She is too comfortable and used to calling for X and is quite shy. I'm not saying she doesn't have to be friends with X I just don't want her to feel that X is be all and end all and she can have other friends and enjoy other kids company. Any Advice?
On another issue, dd was out playing yesterday evening, she ended up playing with X and a group of older girls who are about 2/3 years older. Anyway, next thing I know dd comes running into the house upset, she wouldn't tell me why, until my ds came in and said X is so mean to dd. So I asked ds what happened and he told me that X said that dd said that one of the older girls was fat ie X told all the older girls that dd had said this and that's when dd came running in home. I was thinking 'no way, dd would never say something like that, esp about the girl in question as she really likes her, looks up to her & also I don't think she knows what being fat is' So I asked dd about it, she was still upset, so I said she wouldn't get in trouble but she had to tell me what happened. So she told me that she did in fact tell X that this Older girl was fat. I am shocked tbh. I told her she should never ever talk like that about someone etc. I think she definitely got it, she was crying and very upset and said she wouldn't. Now I'm not sure how to deal with this, should I go get dd to apologize or is that only drawing attention to whole thing making an issue out of it and upsetting the older girl etc or should I just leave it and see if anything is said to me by the parent? We all live close by and know each other. I have warned dd about it and really don't think she will say it again. Advice please?