Dummy wars

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Let me preface this by saying that in my naive pre babyness, I HATED dummies.

Fast forward and DS is massive comfort sucker and we gave in and bought emergency dummy. I am v v keen to keep it to sending to sleep only so that it isn't a per infant fixture in his mouth, but every time he even grizzled, DH shoves it in his mouth. My step daughter does the same, no matter how I say, why don't we try rocking him? Has e been changed! Etc... It is driving me crazy!

I know it's irrational but I want to throw the fucking thing out the fwindow, but with every day DS loves it more and more...

We swapped the dummy for an Olly & Belle muslin at 6 months. It stays in the cot

Thanks star girl, I will try that in a few months. Well done for wading through the multitude of auto corrects! Bloody iPad.

Studies done on SIDs/cot death show that using a dummy reduces the risk - so there are pros and cons.....

Yeah I have seen those star dust... I'm apply for him to have it at night for a bit and when napping etc but I just don't want it in his mouth all day. And it's becoming a way of dh avoiding actually sorting the problem you know? The dummy is the first go to when he starts crying.

I'm happy for him to have it at night I meant. Bloody iPad - I can honestly usually string a sentence together!

My dh is the same, I've just kept saying that he needs to use his voice, he'll never start talking if there's a dummy in his mouth all the time! I have no problem with dummies, im just wary of relying too heavily on one method of soothing- what happens when we lose the dummy?! Just persevere, it got to the point that I hid the dummy and he had to find another way to soothe him.

Fwiw dh not a lazy parent, but after 3 weeks of a colicky baby the dummy was a god send, very easy to always go for the quick fix!

Same!

I was anti-dummy but because DS screamed for his food with barely any warning cues we gave in & bought some to keep him calm whilst we heated his feed.

Now at 6m we use them for naps only but I sympathise with you about DH as mine was the same & it used to bug me SO much that his response to crying was often "give him his dummy".
2 weeks ago on holiday DS woke in the night crying & he took a while to settle. After a bit DH obviously couldn't be arsed with his sleep being disturbed & worrying about his mum in the next room. Anyway needless to say DH was snapped at from me big time & once DS burped he settled. A dummy would obviously not have stopped his crying from trapped wind!

So I've had a truce with the dummy for now & it will NOT be becoming a feature outside of naps. Eventually I will choose time to wean him off it for naps, but 6m is a bit early for him I think.

Don't worry he won't have it for ever!

DD has a several taggie blankets that she sucks and has to take them everywhere (21 months). Slightly better than a dummy I think, but still wish I could wean her off them.