Husband hasn't bonded with DS

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Our son will be 1 next month

Husband hasn't bonded with him at all, and i'm starting to get a little worried

We also have a daughter age 3 and my husband dotes on her.

I don't know if its just because of the age of our son and as he gets bigger it will get better but i'm starting to freak out.

I'm the more hands on parent with both our kids,

My husband will openly admit he hasn't bonded with him but doesn't seem worried about it,

Any advice or experience would be great

How does he mean 'haven't bonded with him'? Does he mean he doesn't love him or just finds it easier to parent your DD? It could be he doesn't have anything in common with him just yet because of his age.

We have 2 DS's. DS1 is 6 years old. DS2 is 19 months. I would say I have a better 'bond' with DS1 than DS2. However, it doesn't mean I don't love DS2. I just find DS1 easier to parent because of his age. He is far far more interesting and less physical work. I still adore DS2. I just don't enjoy our time together as much. Could it be something similar for your DH?

I think you do need to talk about it definitely but don't make him feel guilty about it. I have felt terrible about my DS2 and wondering if he'll know I don't feel the same connection to him. I actually went to counselling about it! I have realised though that the love is there. As he gets older, I feel more and more bonded and connected to him, especially now he can talk. Maybe your DH will feel more for DS as he gets older.