One birthday or two? (Warning: highly trivial)

[RubyrooUK]

Sorry for this intensely dull question. I do have more to occupy my mind but I seem to be typing anyway....

My DS is shortly turning three. His birthday is in the week and he is having a party at the weekend.

Should we:

• make the party day his official birthday and give him all his presents then?

• give him presents on his real birthday (when DH will be at work and I have various chores we have to do ahead of his party).

I think if he gets his presents on the party day itself, he may not want to put them away and have a party (). It's the first time we have had a party for him and he is excited about cake and pass the parcel. But will two birthday days confuse him?

What did you do? What would you do? Sometimes I appear entirely unequipped to make even simple parenting decisions.

I always do cake and presents on the day of the actual birthday and then the party separately. Sometimes I wrap up a book for one of the dds to open at their party from us if there is a few days between birthday and party, sometimes I forget.

We give a couple of presents before school & cards
After school the rest of the presents & cake

They get more presents on the day of the party from friends

Tbh what chores must you do that stop you watching him open his presents from you on his birthday & singing happy birthday ?!!

cake and presents on bday and party seperately.

we tend to do a bday tea at home on the day of the birthday.

they get more presents at the party anyway.

Thanks everyone.

Don't worry Captain, I'm not quite so rubbish that he wouldn't get presents and happy birthday sung on his birthday. I just meant that we have to go and pick up some stuff for his party and he wouldn't want to do that without tantrumming if he got his lovely presents. He would want to stay home all day and play with them. He is currently prone to drama queen weeping and flinging himself in an anguished on the floor a lot if thwarted in any way.

I think we will do presents on his actual birthday and the party separately. Thank you!