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Potty training 5 days in - all wees in pot! All poos in pants!

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MommyD · 14/06/2006 12:54

Great success with weeing in pot - started training saturday. 2 or 3 wee accidents - rest in pot. Not a single poo in the pot - all in his pants. He really won't and seems bothered to poo in the pot. Anyone had this? Any ideas on how to help him poo in the pot?

I should keep going shouldn't I and not revert to nappies?

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tortoiseshell · 14/06/2006 12:56

poo often seems to take much longer than wees to sort out - sorry! Sounds like he's doing great with the wees though. Don't go back into nappies - just try and catch him when he's about to poo, and lots of praise if he gets one in the potty.

PetitFilou1 · 14/06/2006 14:31

Good for you - we're still having wee accidents so you are doing better than us! My sister used to work in a nursery - she says be very careful around the poo issue or they get constipated as they start witholding (my ds has tried to withold but they are still coming but less regularly than usual) Yesterday when ds pooed in his pants he was really upset so I put the poo in the potty, told him it didn't matter but that was where it should go (bizarre I know but seemed to instantly calm him down). You could also offer her an incentive - big sticker or two chocolates or something - that might work? I'm a novice though so just some ideas!

PetitFilou1 · 14/06/2006 14:32

Sorry realised you have ds not dd!

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MommyD · 14/06/2006 15:07

Thanks - he has rewards for wee in pot and the promise of bigger reward for poos. Still not interested in pooing in pot!

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theinvisiblegirl · 15/06/2006 12:47

Sorry to say but I think that's quite normal. DD was dry within a few days but has taken over 9 months before she started pooing in the toilet not her pants!

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MommyD · 15/06/2006 18:05

But how do you cope with EVERY poo in their pants for that long!?!! He still has not had a single poo in the pot since Saturday. Doesn't it make going out for long rather tricky?

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JoshandJamie · 15/06/2006 18:59

We started on MondaY (Not intentionally really it just sort of happened). First day he was brilliant and did all his wees on the pot. Since then it's been accident city. But he has done 3 poos in the potty. He seems less bothered by poos than pees. GO figure. A friend of mine had the same problem you're having - only her little girl just refused to poo full stop unless she had a nappy on. She did LOTS of role play with teddies on the potty, saying how clever they were for pooing etc.

anchovies · 15/06/2006 19:04

We had the same, no wee accidents at all but every poo was an accident. A "special treat" did the trick, first bit(!) of poo in the potty meant a trip to the shop with daddy in pjs for an icecream, after that it sort of clicked! Not a single accident since then so definitely don't give up, stick with the pants, horrible as it is!

theinvisiblegirl · 15/06/2006 21:05

I admit it was very frustrating having to deal with pooey pants for such a long time, and I will admit to getting mad at times, but eventually it just seemed to click for her.

I don't know why she took so long to get it right, but you just have to remember that they will eventually do the poos in the right place! Try not to get mad (sometimes very difficult I know), and don't make a fuss about it. I found that sometimes it seemed as though the accidents were almost deliberate - so maybe a bit of attention seeking? But for your ds MommyD it is still very early days.

Hope it all goes cleanly for you very soon

alex8 · 15/06/2006 21:09

don't like to depress you but I will! My son started traning 2.5 months ago and is still doing poos in pants! Or sometimes just on the floor/garden. He is dry day and night though. Have tried everything in the book to no avail. Getting very worried about him starting nursery in sep.

TooTicky · 15/06/2006 21:13

Poos are more complicated for some reason. We had a long pants-poo stage but it stopped just before I went completely insane. Don't go back to nappies as this can be discouraging. I will be thinking of you!

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MommyD · 15/06/2006 21:51

Thanks everyone. I have three sons and I thought ds1 had set the pace for potty training, in my mind. He was potty trained from 2.9 years (not particularly early, but I KNEW he was ready) - it took a week - and virtually no accidents since. He has just turned 4. I suppose I expected ds2 to be at least slightly similar. But no. Suppose I am anxious to 'move to the next stage' because I have a 4 year old, an almost three year old and a one year old. Life is really tough at the moment without the extra poo marathons we run every day.

I will stick with it, keep the encouragement flowing and am really hoping (really, really) that things improve for both of us.

(a "share with other mommies moment": I was sitting drinking my cup of tea with a chocolate biscuit this afternoon - the first time I had sat down since 6:30am. To my horror I discovered a smear of son-poo from my inner wrist to the middle of my forearm. Biscuit went in the bin, break time over and I've had a really bad day

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MommyD · 21/06/2006 19:01

UPDATE: I felt I had to update you because I was rather shocked by how things have turned out. First five days was all wees in pot and all poos in pants. On the Friday (day 6) he finally did his first poo in the pot and for the last SIX days we have not had a single accident! He takes himself off to the loo and just calls me when he is done. I am over the moon as I have three sons and only one left in nappies (he's not yet 1). Thanks for all your support. I think he cracked it!!

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alp · 21/06/2006 21:38

Thats great news - my DD took a few months to get a hang of poo in pot - it was a constant worry whenever we were out that she would suddenly have a 'sag' in the back of her pants! We did have once incident where one 'rolled out' and I had to go and find it.............joys of parenting!

Babelange · 22/06/2006 13:28

I've just worked out it was 2 weeks before Easter when DS2 refused to wear nappies anymore (2 yrs + 7 months) and has been dry during the days & nights but can now count poos on loo on one hand! The problem is that he sneaks off to do a poo in his pants - he is very unco-operative and too big and heavy to whisk upstairs. He's perfectly happy to wee sitting down and standing up on the loo - he's never been too keen on the potty as he's really a bit too tall to squat. He has a lovely range of big boys pants - Power Rangers, Bob-the-B, Thomas... In terms of temperament he's unbribable and seems to only covert DS1's things...
Thinking very carefully about him as a baby - he hated been soiled and we always changed him quickly as he sure let us know about it. Which makes me think maybe he doesn't really take responsibility for what's coming...? And then it must be quite troubling seeing such a big thing coming out from their little bodies. There's also a big deal about having his hair combed - he wants the hairs on the brush back (they're usually mine ).
Anyone like to shed some psychological light on this behaviour? Feeling philosophical, well we can enjoy recounting tales of their non-compliant potty/loo behaviour when they are strapping 16 yr olds .

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