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On my own

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Kay03 · 12/08/2013 08:54

It's my first day without OH or family support and I'm really stressing. Baby girl didn't sleep barely at all and won't feed properly and I haven't slept. She won't let me put her down either. Feel lonely

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Jo178 · 12/08/2013 09:02

Oh gosh, I remember feeling exactly like that when DD was tiny. All I can say is that it does get easier. Get out and about as much as you can, baby groups, walks etc and make some mummy friends who are in the same position.

dingdangdoo · 12/08/2013 09:09

Take a deep breath splash your face with some water and put the kettle on, get some giddy upbeat music on ..you'll be fine. Baby will sense your stressed. They will eventually sleep. Maybe get out in the fresh air, just a little walk, that and just the motion of movement usually knocks them out for a few Zzzzzz.

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Kay03 · 12/08/2013 09:10

I'm so tired though. And she's only grazing my breast milk so she'll be wanting to feed every .5 minutes

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Maggietess · 12/08/2013 09:31

Try to catch a quick snooze next time she does. Then when she's awake and had even a small feed I'd do what another poster suggested and wash your face put her in a sling or the buggy and get outside. Even if it's a 10 minute walk cus she's looking to feed again. You will feel so much better. I used to do that about 5 times a day just to help my sanity.

It's very very hard when you're so underslept and on your own but you can do it!!

Also try some of the local parenting boards as they often have options for you to post to meet other mums at a similar stage to you.

Summer is hard for meeting people as the baby groups all tend to be off but you might meet people in the park... And company helps!!

ExBrightonBell · 12/08/2013 09:32

Do you have any new mum friends who you can meet up with? Even just going round each others houses helps, or meeting out somewhere comfortable. It does get less stressful, honestly. And congratulations on your new baby

Maggietess · 12/08/2013 09:33

About not letting you out her down, if you haven't got a sling, try one. I had a little limpet with my first and I found the sling helped me regain some sense of independence even though she was still there my hands weren't always taken up.

brightonbythesea · 12/08/2013 09:55

i remember my first few days when my dh went back to work, I felt bluesy and sick all the time. it will be fine in a couple of days, power on the first couple of days are the hardest. does your local children amd family centre have a first time mums group? ask your HV, I weny with my dd when she was 3 weeks. she just slept and fed and cried, but I met other mums of little babies and we all meet up now.
eat regularly, ring your friends, sleep, you will be fine

Maggietess · 13/08/2013 16:13

How did you get on yesterday and today kay03? Survive it ok?

SummerSevern · 13/08/2013 16:20

Ok kay, I feel for you. I'm 5 days into being left on my own and it's vile.
If it helps, we can be scared and lonely together?

Melonbreath · 14/08/2013 09:35

Stay in bed. All day.
Have a disposable changing mat with you and a binbag next to the bed, and chuck all nappy stuff in there
I lived on cornish pasties at that stage as I could eat them one handed and they needed no prepping.
Have your phone and text like mad.
It sucks but it gets better.

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