18 month old wont sleep at night unless cuddled

[leeanne6385]

hi all iv got 18 month old daughter she goes to sleep fine by tickling her feet but every night around 1am she wakes up for drink and wants cuddled beside me to sleep there are times iv been so tired iv let her in my bed just so i can sleep iv tried to keeo her in her bed put her down once she stands up give her drink but she be awake for hours and come 6am i exausted and give in to get her to sleep please any ideas be great i realy want her to sleep all night in her bed now

No advice but DS is 18 months and has wanted me during the night i've just put him in a single bed and get in with him, he used to come in our bed in the early hours and stopped at 12mo so i'm confidant that he will grow out of this as well. They are still babies at 18mo and sometimes just need mummy once DS is older if he's still doing it we will work on stopping it but at the moment i'm happy to do what he wants so we all get sleep and wake up happy.

My DD used to be like this. It was 18 months ish that I started doing something about it.

At first se would only breastfeed to sleep so I replaced that with cuddles. I then worked on replacing the cuddles with hand holding and then just sitting next to her bed. It took quite a while to get to this stage but I think it's less stressful for them if you do it in little steps. Could you try something like that?

yea she goes to sleep holding oyr hand at bedtime but when she wakes around 1am it dont work iv tried hand holding tickling feet pattin stomach or back and she stays awake for hours

but she sprawls out on my bed and my partner gets pushed out bed with her really want her to sleep in her bed

She will outgrow it. What about setting up camp in her room so you stay in there with her - a step towards her getting used to it?

My dd (20 months) is just coming out of the phase of needing to be rocked to sleep after a regression at around 18/19 months. I can no leave her after a cuddle and she'll sleep. Before that she wanted me - think it was separation anxiety.

So cuddle her to sleep, have a bed in her room next to her cot. Keep trying to leave her every now and then, after a cuddle and telling her calmly it's time to sleep, and give her a minute or two to settle. She might cry and stop then sleep. If she's upset then go back in.

If she comes to you tell her you can't cuddle in your bed but will tuck her in back into her bed.

If she's a heavy sleeper, cuddle her to sleep then put her back.

I have a 5yo who has to have her back tickled every night, wish I'd have been firmer before really.

Sorry I forgot she's only 18mo so maybe reasoning won't quite work, just keep trying x

she sleeps in my room as iv 3 other kids iv 2 boys who share and and a ten year old but not wabt to put 18 month old in her room as she will keep waking my ten year old up i want to wait till she sleep all night my 18 month old bed in my room but like i said she wakes up every night to sleep beside me i know you all say it a habbit she will grow out off but what if she dont i dont want her gettin to 3 and wont sleep unless in bed beside me ?? i try sit beside her holdin hand etc but she stays awake moaning

I know you said she just stays awake if you hold her hand but she will eventually fall asleep. It might take a while but you just need to persist. The first few nights will probably be hard but that's the only way you're going to be able to do it unless you just let her grow out of it.