I'd like some advice on how to deal with my MIL as I'm out of ideas about how to cope with her. The woman has a way of making my blood boil. Since my dd was born last December she's literally become a nightmare. She is disrespectful about my parenting, telling anyone who'll listen about what I'm doing wrong, DD apparently cries all the time, is underweight cause I don't feed her enough, doesn't sleep through yet etc. none of this is based on any fact, like every other opinion she holds. We see her at least once a week, which she moans isn't enough and during our visits it's a constant battle with her. She undermines me at any opportunity, for example this week she declared DD was thirsty so she'd get her a cordial. I politely declined as we don't give her adult cordial and said the cup of milk was in reach if DD wanted it. She ignored me and fetched a drink in an glass, to the point where I physically had to stand between her and DD to stop her. I know it sounds petty but if I've said no and explained that we don't give her adult juice because of the sugars, why isn't that enough to stop her. I feel if I let her ignore me things will only get worse. We constantly battle over similar things, she tried to take to spoon out my hand when we're feeding, grabbed the pram when I turned to lock the back door and even snatched her out of my arms when I was burping her mid breast-feed.
Do I have to tell her to butt out or is this behaviour normal??? I