Being pregnant and having a toddler. I'm such a shit mum at the moment.

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36 weeks pregnant with DC2, I'm huge, uncomfortable, still working and tired. DD1 is a good girl but a very typical 2 year old, loves nothing than emptying cupboards, disputing everything I say and generally being a very demanding cheeky monkey. Feel like all I do lately is wish she'd be quiet, wish the day away until her bedtime and be an overall shouty irritable mummy and I hate myself for it. Soon as she wakes up (5-6am) it's just constant, she mawls, crawls and hangs off me all the time.

Sorry just needed a winge, I'm so tired I do adore her more than anything it's just hard.

You're not a shit mum though are you? You're 36 weeks pregnant and dealing with a normal hectic toddler. Bloody well done!!
Put her favourite show on, put your feet up and relax a bit. The housework can wait. You don't have to do anything wild and over the top with dd. just relax. Let her run about a bit. Cuddle her. Enjoy this last bit of time just you and her.

Sorry you're feeling crappy.

I'm 39 weeks and have a 18 month old.. I feel your pain!

But as pp said try and enjoy the last few weeks just the two of you, it's what is getting me through

I was you a few weeks ago! Is there anyone that can have your DD for a few hours? If not have a lazy day and try not to worry about how much tv your DD watches! People underestimate how hard the last weeks of pregnancy are.

Thanks guys that's a good way of looking at it. Last few weeks of me and her time.

Just feel for her, bet she doesn't know where she stands one minute I'm having a stand off with her about putting every single pan she's just took out of the cupboard back and the next I'm giving her a teary cuddle because she's just me that confused 'WTF are you stressing about now mummy' look?

Monsters how is it with NB and toddler? Easier or just as bad?

Please don't worry! I felt like a terrible mum to my dd for the last few weeks of my pregnancy and for the first few weeks of ds being here.
I was too tired to take her to the park, or to walk very far, and would spend my afternoons lying on the sofa while she watched cbeebies! It's only now that ds is nearly 3 months that we are getting back to normal. And I can honestly say that having a newborn and a toddler is not as hard as I thought it would be.

Thanks Madame that's nice to hear xx

You're doing just fine just understandably knackered and fed up. I totally overused soft play centres and cbeebies in the latter stages of my second pregnancy and for the first few weeks after dd2 was born - ds1 was more than happy to charge about a play centre while I had a cuppa and wasn't aware that I only took him there to have a break myself! Neither do the hormones and poor sleep help with the shouty witch moments. Whatever methods you employ in the short term to fob off childcare occupy your dd without you having to constantly entertain her will not damage her in the long run! And I successfully weaned ds1 off the cbeebies / disney dvds overload when things got easier! x

This was me.

I used to have really long baths with my toddler. It kept me cool, and him entertained. Might be worth a try.

The other thing I used to do was blow up loads of balloons. And of course endless cbeebies. Don't worry, it's normal.

second everything madamecake said. In my last weeks of pregnancy I was overwhelmingly tired an DD watched loads of cbeebies. It's fine and didn't do her any harm - didn't stop me feeling guilty at the time though!
Put your feet up and relax. There will be plenty of time to take your DD out to the park etc, while the new baby is hopefully sleeping in the pram.
Having two has not been as hard as I imagined either. It's got much better as the weeks have gone by. Good luck !