Any words of advice to cope with my constantly defiant 19 month old?

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Well the title says it all really. My 19 month old DS has spent the entire day saying no, whining and generally being defiant. Also any time I try and move him (eg into/out of car, change nappy etc) he has a mini tantrum. No full blown temper tantrums at this stage but still goes rigid and screams momentarily. This has been going on for a number of days and already I am losing my patience and not dealing with it at all well. If anyone has any advice/strategies to help me keep my cool and help my DS get through this seemingly frustrating time it'd be much appreciated! Thank you!

Try to spend as much time as poss entertaining him. Always give a few minutes warning that a napoy change/car ride etc is due to happen. Praise praise praise when hes behaving well. Stern voice and consistency when he isnt. If poss leave the room when he tantrums.

Hope it helps!
And remember wev all been there ;)

Agree with boardiegirl, walk away for a few minutes. dd used to regularly do this at this age, it's so embarrassing when you're out too. calm down, then ignore the behaviour as much as you can. if they're just saying no they aren't in a listening mood! I read on here when I posted then to try and get them into a good mood when they're like this, do something they really enjoy and are good at so you can break the cycle and aren't continually telling them off.

It's absolutely to be expected at his age..he's just realised that he has an effect on his environment so he's testing the boundaries. I used to repeat this like a mantra on the hard days

Pick your battles and chivvy chivvy chivvy in a bright, cheerful voice is the best advice I can give you. If you refuse to comply or give in in the wake of a tantrum now you'll have far less aggro further on down the line.

Have a on me and don't be scared to take five minutes if you need them...we've all been there.