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I just wish I wasn't so crap

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trinityrhino · 12/06/2006 14:51

ok HUGE cofession, my 14 month old dd has been eating tinned soup and mashed potato (packet stuff) with chicken puree (mum's own brand) and gracy for most meals

HELP, I know she will eat it so I keep doing it, it's way too smooth for her age, it's shit food compared to good ole homemade stuff, a couple of weeks ago she ate spag bol (homemade) and I only cut up the spaghetti, I didn't blend it and she loved it
why can't I sort out means like that that I can freeze on portions or something AAAAAAAAAAAGHHHHHHHHH

sorry just feel like a really bad mummy at the mo, can't seem to do what I think I should be doing

sorry

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PanicPants · 12/06/2006 14:53

Your not crap, your just like the rest of us, trying to do the best you ca.

My ds won't eat enything at the moment apart from a bit of petit filous!

trinityrhino · 12/06/2006 15:01

how old is your ds panic???

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PsychoFlame · 12/06/2006 15:02

Suggestion - whenever you do a meal for you & DH, do extra and freeze it in portions. Its what Psycho used to do, and I have started lately in a similar way just fridging it, and DD is a day behind us on meals iyswim.

You are not a bad mummy, a lot of children get a lot less/worse!

If she is growing normally and is happy, then she is doing ok and you are doing well.

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mckenzie · 12/06/2006 15:05

I think you need a weekly menu and write a shopping list. Plan when you can make these meals, buy lovely ingredients that are pleasing to look at so that you actually enjoy making them and amke sure you set aside enough time, probably when DD is asleep, to cook them leisurely and you might find you actually enjoy it.

There are plenty of threads on here for good, easy to make freezable meals.
If you cant find the threads let me know and I'll search for you.

mckenzie · 12/06/2006 15:07

btw, I totally agree with Physoflame that you are not a bad mummy.

PsychoFlame · 12/06/2006 15:08

Beans on toast is one of the most nutritious meals about if that helps Grin

Has all the amino acids needed to make everything (might be missing one for children, can't quite remember sciencey knowledge), and with cheese, Psycho's nutritionist recommended it for her DS2 (limited due to food issues) because it had everything in it that a child needed (protein, iron etc).

Beans on toast with cheese and ham on top, followed by banana/fromage frais, with a glass of orange juice. All the good stuff and loved by most children.

trinityrhino · 12/06/2006 15:22

she doesn't feed herself well at al, even if she' hungry she just mashes it into whatver is near her and then throws it on the floor

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trinityrhino · 12/06/2006 15:24

realised as I posted that

it my fault and I should just let her do that but how long before she actually thinks about putting it in her mouth

last time she had some beans she was up all night with tummy ache and farting like nobody's business

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PanicPants · 12/06/2006 15:37

He's 9 months. I'm mixing his dinners up with petit filous so he'll take them. AND they're all lovingly homecooked as well, the bugger!

emmawill · 12/06/2006 15:38

Oh its impossible on times mine is soooooo fussy and and has only just started eating properly again at 17 months but wouldn't eat before. A 14 month old is still getting most of their nutrition from milk anyway. I was a chef before I became a stay at home mummy and I sometimes haven't got a clue what to cook and cheat, its not a easy job. Smile

PanicPants · 12/06/2006 15:40

Someone on here posted a lovely recipe for lentil fingerfood which I'm going to make this week. I'll find the thread for you as she might find these a bit easier.

PanicPants · 12/06/2006 15:43

It was corriedale recipe\link{http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=2400&threadid=177792\here}

suejonez · 12/06/2006 16:02

Have you tried two spoons - one for her one for you? She can mash with her spoon whilst you feed with yours.

trinityrhino · 12/06/2006 20:04

thanks guys

I'm so dumb I hadn't even thought about the two spoon idea, thanks I will try that

thanks fro the recipe panicpants, I'll def. try that
SmileSmileSmile

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hulababy · 12/06/2006 20:07

Try lots of fingers foods too, maybe along side her other food. She can then do them hersef as you use the spoon. Sticks of cucumner, carrot, cherry tomatoes, fruit, bread/toast, penne pasta, etc.

hulababy · 12/06/2006 20:12

Also, why not get a simple recipe book aimed at toddler meals? It'll give you some more ideas - the ideas can be the hardest thing soemtimes. You can get the, in Asda for about £3 or £4. They have meals for all the family, as well as for toddlers.

If you little one likes soup why not make your own? Then you can vary the lumpiness. Dead easy - chop potato, carrot and onion. Boil in water. Add a stock cube and maybe some herbs (dried is fine). Don't add salt for the little one though. Boil till soft, then blitz with a blender. Longest part is the veg chopping, rest is just leaving it to itself. You can make lumpier casseroles similar too. Add some meat and there you go.

PanicPants · 12/06/2006 20:13

thats ok trinityrhino, i'll try it too, fingers crossed!

eggybreadandbeans · 12/06/2006 23:47

Hey TR. Understand how you feel on this one. When ds (two in two days!) began weaning, I spent months making up stews and casseroles, blending and freezing - and he developed a bit of a reputation as a super-healthy boy. Grin And I got fed-up with all the cooking. Sad

So now we compromise. And when ds was your daughter's age last summer - and a few times since, when he's had picky phases - we compromised even more. Last summer, ds survived a week or two on tofu sausages and satsumas. I was fretting, but he was happy.

I loved another poster's finger food suggestion. Ds was really getting into finger food past one. Some speedy and wholesome finger food options, which I still frequently throw together on a segmented plate for ds now, include:

  • chopped strawberries/melon/grapes/apple (always a bit of fruit)
  • sticks of cucumber or wholegrain toast with blobs of houmous to dip into
  • wholewheat pasta twists tossed in a bit of pesto and olive oil
  • tofu sausages, sliced straight out of the fridge - never bother to cook (try two varieties by Taifun - in the chilled cabinet in independent healthfood shops, and absolutely packed with goodness ... really soft for young babies too)
  • jacket potato, cooked in microwave, and cubed (skinned probably for your little one), drizzled with a bit of olive oil and tiny bit of sea salt
  • wholegrain toast with houmous/Marmite/yeast pate followed by fruit
  • wholegrain noodles tossed in sesame oil and soya sauce
  • omelette with soft, steamed veg in it

Some of the above - fruit/cucumber - might need to be extra soft/peeled for your dd, but I reckon she'd manage most of it.

All of the above can be eaten with fingers - the original forks! Wink - and quickly prepared. And if all the grain products - bread, pasta, noodles, etc - you have in your house are wholegrain, that's loads of extra goodness for no extra effort. (Some people warn about feeding wholegrain food to toddlers, saying refined is better, but ds is a thriving, tall and chunky vegetarian, has never had constipation, and has eaten mostly wholegrains since weaning, so in our experience, this doesn't stack up.)

I'm a food fanatic, but like you can't be arsed with the endless cooking of wholesome stews - at least not in this weather. Would second previous poster's ideas on cooking extra of yours and freezing/refrigerating for baby next day. Even saving a few of your veggies means you've got a meal once these are added to pasta or an omelette. Doesn't always work - depends on the dish - but you get a few extra meals in for dd this way.

Also, if time is a genuine issue - and money isn't Grin - can you buy in chilled fresh soup, and bag it up in little portions, instead of feeding dd tinned? Or make her some quick mash by cooking a tiny jacket potato in the microwave and mashing the contents with olive oil? Quick ways to improve on what you're already doing ...

By the way, ds has his vices too - garlic bread, eggy bread and beans (hence the name Wink) and chocolate (he has his dad's sweet tooth).

Hope this helps. Sorry it's a long one - I love food, and got carried away! Grin

EBAB

eggybreadandbeans · 12/06/2006 23:51

PS You're really not crap at all, by the way. I understand you worrying about your dd's eating - I do about ds's from time to time too. The great thing is that because you're concerned about it, you'll turn it around if that's what's needed.

Should have put this understanding bit before my last bit of ramble - oops Blush ... I just get carried away with food! (Now you know why I've started a thread elsewhere on exercise Grin.)

EBAB

trinityrhino · 13/06/2006 06:47

thanks eggy bread, I really like the ideas you've listed, I'm gonna try them ll Grin

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