How should I handle this?

[PickledMoomin]

Ex H is on school holidays at the moment as am I, DD and DS.

He usually sees them every other weekend and one evening for dinner during the week.

I took them on holiday for a week and it was his weekend when we arrived back so they saw him then. He hadn't asked/committed to having extra contact but they asked to stay with him on Sunday eve (he was going out) and the same happened on Thursday evening.

He'll text when he has nothing else planned and ask to see them but we've often made plans to do other things. Should I be cancelling plans so that they can spend time with him? He's seen them for 2 days in 18.

I don't cancel my plans so my ex can see the dc, even though he thinks I should. He cancels his regular contact sometimes when he has a better offer so afaic I shouldnt put myself out to make up.for it.

If exh is reliable for his own days, I would make a few exceptions and cancel plans simetimes so he can see them more. It can only be good for the kids to see their daddy a bit more. I would ask him to do his best to give you notice where possible.

Thank you both. I need a bit of perspective. I don't want to starve the DCs of their dad's company but I really feel like he takes the P by only having them when it suits him. I feel so angry with him at the moment. He has such an easy ride whilst I do 99% of the work!

It's so hard isn't it Pickled my ex dropped the boys off today and declared that he would have them one day midweek. Not asked if they were free, but just said he will have them!
I have planned most of this week already, but some of it is 'only pencilled in' so can be changed, and one say the plan was shopping so they can miss that!.

It is hard. I feel as though he thinks he's doing me a favour when he looks after them which is ridiculous.